How has having a baby changed your partner?

Hiya.



I am about to get married and will be trying for a baby right away, but i'm not sure how %26quot;baby friendly%26quot; he is.



He is a good man, but he is a little prone to selfishness and laziness.



When his baby niece started screaming he just froze and passed her to me.



I was wondering if women with similar reservations were relieved to find their partner getting really involved.



Or maybe you found that they didn't change at all or maybe got worse?



ThanksHow has having a baby changed your partner?
Sorry to say that they don't change much. If he is selfish and lazy now a baby wont change that. My husband was never much of a baby person when we were dating and sadly he didnt spend much time with our kids when they were babies. That doesn't mean he's a terrible father or that I love him any less. I just had to get a little bossy with him and encourage him to help more. Just try talking to your soon to be husband about your worries and explain that you expect him to help out when you do have children. GOOD LUCK!How has having a baby changed your partner?
He'll probably change when its his own baby.

For the record, I am the type that would freeze and hand the baby over if it started crying! LOL! Not that I don't like babies or anything. But now that I am having my own baby I know it will be different :)How has having a baby changed your partner?
I think if i had a child with my current partner; i'd be extremely scared because it can go one way or the other; it can go smoothly and you can become a lot closer or you just grow apart as the little child takes up all of your time!



Seens your partner is like this it might be hard for him at first and maybe he isnt the kind of guy who can just automatically bond with a child. You may find it a bit difficult if he's selfish and lazy so you may find doing most of the work but if you include him into activites like going to the park for example with the child this a way you can all bond and become A LOT closer.





That is what i'd do anyways :P



Caroline.



EDIT: The woman who first answered: Your one lucky woman to have man like that :]How has having a baby changed your partner?
YEA IT IS DIFFERENT WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR OWN BABY BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHAT CERTAIN CRIES ARE FOR LIKE OKAY SHE NEED HER DIAPER CHANGE OR SOMEBODY HURT HER OR SHE IS HUNGRY OR SHE WANT ATTENTION.... WHEN IT IS YOUR BABY IT IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT FROM WATCHING SOMEONE ELSESHow has having a baby changed your partner?
I would definitely recommend being married for couple years before you try for a baby. You'll have enough changes to deal with, even if you've lived together previously, and trying to conceive and having an infant will add to the stress. The first couple years of marriage are hard enough, even in the best relationships. Also, it sounds like you've made the decision that you'll be trying right away, but you don't mention that he's on board with it. You should both want to start a family if you are going to try to deliberately get pregnant. This is something you need to discuss with him before you say %26quot;I do.%26quot;



I wanted to start trying a year or two into our marriage, but we just weren't ready, so we waited. When we both felt that we were ready for and wanted a baby, we started trying and got pregnant right away. I'm so glad that we waited because since my husband felt that he was equally involved in our decision to start a family, he has been very involved. He comes to every prenatal appointment and always had good questions to ask the doctor, he calls all the time to check on %26quot;us,%26quot; he started doing all the cleaning and laundry because I felt really sick the first couple months, he researched the safety features of a dozen cars to make sure he was buying the safest car for me and the baby, and he's all-around supportive. This is the same man who had to be taught how to load a dishwasher at 22. It has changed him for the better, but if I had gone ahead and tricked or coerced him into getting me pregnant I know he would have resented it.



Remember, your child will live with you for 18 years, but your spouse should be with you forever. Nurture the relationship you have with them first and you will be better prepared to be the bast parents you can be.How has having a baby changed your partner?
hey, i dont have that knowledge to pass on but one thing i am aware of is that if you do have a child together, make sure you push him to be involved from the very start with all aspects of parent hood,good times and bad. diapers, tears, screaming feeding, all of it. why should the responsibility be all of your bc hes just not that into it? no, thats not fair to you. ive seen so many women almost trap themselves into doing everything. my friend thought her partner wasnt that into being involved so the second the baby was crying it was on her, baby was hungry on her, he helped with nothing bc she took on that role from the start. she basically showed him his behavior was ok, bc she would handle everything. just have a talk stating exactly how you feel,that you expect a father to be included on all duties. ive also seen the most selfish, ego driven men become mush balls once they have a child of their own. the best way to know his feelings on these things is to ask right out. and be sure to let him know what you expect from the start. good luck with your marriage and future plansHow has having a baby changed your partner?
My fiance loves kids and is very good with them but my pregnancy has changed him alot! He used to be with me 24/7 and now he kind of avoids me cuz he says i need to rest - which i feel like he takes it as if im made of cotton wool or im disabled :@ I think we will grow much closer once the baby comes because now he is trying to have some fun before he settles down and raises another human being with me. I would recommend waiting a little while, jsut because he acts funny with other babies dont mean he will be like that with his own! There is no right or wrong answer to this only you know your partner and his personality - babies are very demanding, build your life on concrete not sand! good luck!