My cousin just found out she is having a baby with down's syndrome. They are devastated. This will be the second child. The first is perfectly healthy.
I am feeling sad for them. I want to think that this child will provide joy. I know there will be difficulties. What steps can parents take to ensure a good quality of life for these kids.How does a downs baby changed your life?
My brother was born with Down sydrome. He is the best person in the world. He is the only one who can cheer me up no matter what happens. He is so fun to be around and so laid back and it rubs off on everyone he meets.
I know in the first few years of his life he was sick in and out of the hospital. I don't know if it had to do with him being born with Downs, unrelated problems, or a combination of the two. After the first 2 years of his life, things looked more positive. My Mom said he was the easiest to raise out of 3 children. She said if she could have %26quot;10 Michael's she would!%26quot; They bring so much joy.
Now with todays technology, they have tests that screen for fetal abnormalties and it gives the parents longer to accept it and enough time to prepare and educate themselves. My brother is 20 so when my Mom was pregnant, ultrasounds didn't pick up on anything. She didn't know she was having a baby with Down syndrome until hours after she gave birth.
The best thing for the expectant couple to do is to educate themselves. Do research, find support groups that are going through the same thing.How does a downs baby changed your life?
The amount of disability varies widely with these kids, and will be more apparent over time. I don't have a child with Downe's, but many years ago I taught Catechism to a group of Mongoloid teenage adolescent boys. These were all pretty much happy kids and there parents seemed to love them all very much. More than a few told me privately that they felt very blessed to be a parent to their special child. The parents seemed happy, well-adjusted and optimistic about life. I think your cousin's reaction is normal. I also suspect it will most likely change quite a bit for the better, over time :)How does a downs baby changed your life?
honestly, I have never personally known a baby with down syndrome but I was interested in being a teacher at one point - and in taking a lot of education classes, I read a book called %26quot;expecting adam,%26quot; by martha beck. it's a BEAUTIFULLY written memoir about a woman who finds out she's having a baby with down syndrome and it goes through her struggle during her pregnancy with coming to terms with the diagnosis and goes through the beginning years of her baby's life. it's AMAZING. I'd suggest buying them a copy.
http://www.amazon.com/Expecting-Adam-StoHow does a downs baby changed your life?
first the parents need to get educated. read about down syndrome, find local support groups, talk to other parents with children like theirs. search for early intervention services because most likely the child will need therapy such as speech, physical or occupational. create a support network.... friends family neighbors health professionals .. this is important! kids are stressful but a disabled child can add a little more. come to terms with having a disabled child and realize that god has gave you a gift that he doesn't trust most parents with... he gave you his most precious of children... a disabled child. give yourself permission to take time for yourself. if you don't take care of yourself how can you take care of a child? this should be a good start but state and federal agencies should be contacted about services they can offer. the rest will come!
Thursday, June 2, 2011
How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we've got a 5mnth old baby and I'm exhausted.?
Don%26039;t get me wrong, he does help me, I%26039;m not saying he doesn%26039;t, but I need more than what I%26039;m getting. My hubby works shifts and long hours doing physical work and when he gets home he%26039;s exhausted himself. When it%26039;s his weekend off I try to let him relax and rest. He helps me in the sense if dinner isn%26039;t cooked by the time he gets home, he%26039;ll most often help cook dinner. He also helps me by washing and serilizing babys bottles.
I work myself, and have a normal 8am-5pm office job. I just feel exhausted! We can%26039;t afford to get a maid.
I wake up to baby crying around 4am every morning and from there it%26039;s.............feed baby, burp baby, change baby and put him to sleep. By that time it%26039;s 5am, then I have to get up and prepare his bag for the daycare, get myself ready for work and then by that time it%26039;s 6:30am. From there it%26039;s time to drop him off and then it%26039;s off to work. After being stuck in traffic for a while I arrive at work roughly 15mins early. Then it%26039;s work all day. After work, go fetch baby. Once we finally get home I spend half an hour to an hour playing with him. Then it%26039;s baby%26039;s bath time, feeding time..........by now it%26039;s 7pm.
By this time I want to pass out I%26039;m sooooo tired.
If baby is asleep then it%26039;s time to cook, do washing and try clean up a bit. I%26039;m physically and emotionally drained and exhausted. By the time this is all finnished it%26039;s roughly 10:30pm!
My husband wakes up at 5am and leaves for work at 5:45am......he takes the train to work which takes a hour and starts at 7am. He finnishes at 5pm and only arrives home at 6pm.
Am I being unfair to ask for more help? I spoke to him and told him I%26039;m not coping and he%26039;s trying to help me a bit more but as ugly as it sounds............It%26039;s not enough. What do I do?How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
This is exactly the reason why I decided not to go back to work - it%26039;s just too much stress and just not worth it at the end of the day.
Originally when I was pregnant we had planned for me to go back to work when my bub was 6months old but plans changed once the reality of looking after a baby set in.
We decided to just let go of the material things that we were using as the excuse for us putting him in daycare.
We sold up our house and are now renting a smaller cheaper place. When our child is older and at school then I will go back to work and we will start again with the home ownership. We%26039;re saving on all that expensive daycare fees and I am better rested and able to cope with looking after my son - and it is a fulltime job! And I am also able to handle the house work and cooking. In the meantime I am enjoying being home with him, these are magical years and you%26039;ll never get them back - what a shame to miss out on them because you%26039;re so exhausted.
Perhaps you could at least cut back to part time work?
Unfortunately the answer to our problems is not alwaysthe ones we want to hear.
Best of luck.How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
Ok, you%26039;ve succeeded in the hardest part already--he%26039;s TRYING to help. Men need specific instructions and you will have to accept that it%26039;s not going to be done the way that you do--but nonetheless--it%26039;s help. Don%26039;t try to take on so much in 1 day. Try putting the baby to bed a little later--if you want to get more sleep inthe morning. Pack the bag the night before. Let your husband give the baby a bath and don%26039;t feel like you have to bath the baby every single night--overbathing can result in dry skin. Can you have your husband feed the baby, he can do that and watch TV at the same time. As far as cooking--get something easy, don%26039;t make a full course dinner everynight and learn to love leftovers. Also, the housework isn%26039;t going anywhere--so save it for the weekend, when you have time to devote to it. Give yourself a night off. One night a week is you time, go shopping, do anything but be at home. This will give your husband some bonding time with the baby. As women we often take on more than we can handle, but we%26039;re great multi-taskers. We were taught by our families to be the homemaker, but in today%26039;s world it takes 2 incomes to survive most of the time. I can completely relate to what you%26039;re experiencing and it took some counseling to be able to give you an answer to your question. And let me tell you once in awhile my husband still needs a reminder--it%26039;s just men. I also found that putting out more frequently, even if I%26039;m dog tired, seems to be a great motivator for my husband helping out. Good luck. It will get better if you have a positive attitude, my kids are 6 and 8 and my 8 year old had the worst case of colic that 3 pediatricians told me they had ever seen. The 8 year old is still alive, so is my husband and my 6 year old was the best baby ever. You will get through this, you%26039;ve got to give yourself a break and I%26039;m sure your husband will give that to you, but you have to tell him, otherwise he will just go forward as he is now. You can do it!!!How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
Its sounds like you both have too much to cope with, its such a shame you both have to work - I%26039;m presuming you do? Is there any way you can cut your hours? Or take on another position?
It sounds like your husband is trying his best but you%26039;re both struggling.
Try and cut back a little on stuff. The world wont end if all the washing up isnt done, have a takeaway now and again, and maybe try and have a %26039;date night%26039; once a month so someone can look after baby and you can have some adult time.
Good luck!
P.S Just saw the frozen food idea above - great idea!!How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
talk to him and do division of labor. even if your both tired its our responsibiity as parents to take care of everything...How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
some guys help some guys don%26039;t unfortunately you got the guy who doesn%26039;t. i feel for you i know how hard i can be.How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
You need a list - its the only way to help him understand the sheer volumes of what needs to be done.
Write it together and agree on the frequency eg: sterilize bottles daily, vacuum fortnightly etc etc and agree of who is responsible for what.
The other thing you can do is on his weekend off tell him you need 2 hours without him and baby - they can go for a walk or something. Spend this time making meals eg: lasagna, risotto, chicken/vege pie etc that you can freeze. Make enough for 2 weeks then take one out the fridge each morning so you have dinner ready when you get home.
How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
it is not going to get any better, my daughter is 6 and i done everything for her and i have a husband.
I work myself, and have a normal 8am-5pm office job. I just feel exhausted! We can%26039;t afford to get a maid.
I wake up to baby crying around 4am every morning and from there it%26039;s.............feed baby, burp baby, change baby and put him to sleep. By that time it%26039;s 5am, then I have to get up and prepare his bag for the daycare, get myself ready for work and then by that time it%26039;s 6:30am. From there it%26039;s time to drop him off and then it%26039;s off to work. After being stuck in traffic for a while I arrive at work roughly 15mins early. Then it%26039;s work all day. After work, go fetch baby. Once we finally get home I spend half an hour to an hour playing with him. Then it%26039;s baby%26039;s bath time, feeding time..........by now it%26039;s 7pm.
By this time I want to pass out I%26039;m sooooo tired.
If baby is asleep then it%26039;s time to cook, do washing and try clean up a bit. I%26039;m physically and emotionally drained and exhausted. By the time this is all finnished it%26039;s roughly 10:30pm!
My husband wakes up at 5am and leaves for work at 5:45am......he takes the train to work which takes a hour and starts at 7am. He finnishes at 5pm and only arrives home at 6pm.
Am I being unfair to ask for more help? I spoke to him and told him I%26039;m not coping and he%26039;s trying to help me a bit more but as ugly as it sounds............It%26039;s not enough. What do I do?How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
This is exactly the reason why I decided not to go back to work - it%26039;s just too much stress and just not worth it at the end of the day.
Originally when I was pregnant we had planned for me to go back to work when my bub was 6months old but plans changed once the reality of looking after a baby set in.
We decided to just let go of the material things that we were using as the excuse for us putting him in daycare.
We sold up our house and are now renting a smaller cheaper place. When our child is older and at school then I will go back to work and we will start again with the home ownership. We%26039;re saving on all that expensive daycare fees and I am better rested and able to cope with looking after my son - and it is a fulltime job! And I am also able to handle the house work and cooking. In the meantime I am enjoying being home with him, these are magical years and you%26039;ll never get them back - what a shame to miss out on them because you%26039;re so exhausted.
Perhaps you could at least cut back to part time work?
Unfortunately the answer to our problems is not alwaysthe ones we want to hear.
Best of luck.How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
Ok, you%26039;ve succeeded in the hardest part already--he%26039;s TRYING to help. Men need specific instructions and you will have to accept that it%26039;s not going to be done the way that you do--but nonetheless--it%26039;s help. Don%26039;t try to take on so much in 1 day. Try putting the baby to bed a little later--if you want to get more sleep inthe morning. Pack the bag the night before. Let your husband give the baby a bath and don%26039;t feel like you have to bath the baby every single night--overbathing can result in dry skin. Can you have your husband feed the baby, he can do that and watch TV at the same time. As far as cooking--get something easy, don%26039;t make a full course dinner everynight and learn to love leftovers. Also, the housework isn%26039;t going anywhere--so save it for the weekend, when you have time to devote to it. Give yourself a night off. One night a week is you time, go shopping, do anything but be at home. This will give your husband some bonding time with the baby. As women we often take on more than we can handle, but we%26039;re great multi-taskers. We were taught by our families to be the homemaker, but in today%26039;s world it takes 2 incomes to survive most of the time. I can completely relate to what you%26039;re experiencing and it took some counseling to be able to give you an answer to your question. And let me tell you once in awhile my husband still needs a reminder--it%26039;s just men. I also found that putting out more frequently, even if I%26039;m dog tired, seems to be a great motivator for my husband helping out. Good luck. It will get better if you have a positive attitude, my kids are 6 and 8 and my 8 year old had the worst case of colic that 3 pediatricians told me they had ever seen. The 8 year old is still alive, so is my husband and my 6 year old was the best baby ever. You will get through this, you%26039;ve got to give yourself a break and I%26039;m sure your husband will give that to you, but you have to tell him, otherwise he will just go forward as he is now. You can do it!!!How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
Its sounds like you both have too much to cope with, its such a shame you both have to work - I%26039;m presuming you do? Is there any way you can cut your hours? Or take on another position?
It sounds like your husband is trying his best but you%26039;re both struggling.
Try and cut back a little on stuff. The world wont end if all the washing up isnt done, have a takeaway now and again, and maybe try and have a %26039;date night%26039; once a month so someone can look after baby and you can have some adult time.
Good luck!
P.S Just saw the frozen food idea above - great idea!!How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
talk to him and do division of labor. even if your both tired its our responsibiity as parents to take care of everything...How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
some guys help some guys don%26039;t unfortunately you got the guy who doesn%26039;t. i feel for you i know how hard i can be.How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
You need a list - its the only way to help him understand the sheer volumes of what needs to be done.
Write it together and agree on the frequency eg: sterilize bottles daily, vacuum fortnightly etc etc and agree of who is responsible for what.
The other thing you can do is on his weekend off tell him you need 2 hours without him and baby - they can go for a walk or something. Spend this time making meals eg: lasagna, risotto, chicken/vege pie etc that you can freeze. Make enough for 2 weeks then take one out the fridge each morning so you have dinner ready when you get home.
How can I get my husband to help more around the house, we%26039;ve got a 5mnth old baby and I%26039;m exhausted.?
it is not going to get any better, my daughter is 6 and i done everything for her and i have a husband.
Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I just had my daughter 2 weeks ago. I have a horrible headache that has not gone away for a week.
my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.
there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets
there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded
ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.
I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )
well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am
well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.
so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone
so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.
i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day
should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Just try and organize yourself. You shouldn't feel bad and even your ex husband should be sympathetic. It's not easy to be a single parent of 2 older children and have just welcomed a new born into the household.
Every night before bed, if you can remember, set out cereal and bowls for the kiddos and instruct them that if you are not up they can make themselves some breakfast.
Try and fold laundry when you are sitting around and relaxing. After every meal quickly rinse the dishes and either set them in a neat pile on the sink or counter (or drainer) or put them in the dish washer right away. Your kids only answered the door because they knew it was daddy.
Just try and do little things around the house when you can. Keep a laundry basket in a certain easily accessible room around the house so you can drop off laundry you pick up as you go. Direct your kids where to put toys, help them pick up.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
its ok. you are a new mother. but dont let it stay like that forever... :)Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
yes you should clean it becuse you been a bad boyShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I don't think you shouod feel bad, but just remember , it is important to your state of mind to have a pleaseant environment. Try to do little things, like folding while you are sitting, etc. It will have to get done eventually, and the worse you let it go, the worse you will feel. Good luck.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I would not worry about it. I think it will be apparent to a judge that the state of the house was because you are recovering from having a baby. AS long as you have utilities and are not at risk of losing your home, you are still a better choice for a custodial parent for the children.
as for your headache...did you maybe have an epidural/spinal? I had a spinal with my second child and a few days after she was born I got a %26quot;spinal headache%26quot;. It was migraine quality and is apparently caused by a minor leak of spinal fluid at the site of the catheter.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Say no more ...the baby is 2 weeks! You do not need any excuse, just relax and keep in mind your priorities! Keep your kids healthy and happy and keep yourself happy and focused. The house will get clean eventually. Do not let it stay yucky for too long or you will go crazy!! Take it a room at a time and once you start feeling overwhelmed, give yourself a break and then go back to it.
Make sure you are sleeping when you can!!Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
The things you need to do are get your house cleaned up and keep it that way. When you go into court, the judge is more than likely going to say they understand about the new baby. When you get your kids back, if you are having a problem waking up to get them to school, you can set your alarm to make sure they get up in time and you can go right back to sleep.
my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.
there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets
there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded
ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.
I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )
well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am
well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.
so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone
so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.
i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day
should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Just try and organize yourself. You shouldn't feel bad and even your ex husband should be sympathetic. It's not easy to be a single parent of 2 older children and have just welcomed a new born into the household.
Every night before bed, if you can remember, set out cereal and bowls for the kiddos and instruct them that if you are not up they can make themselves some breakfast.
Try and fold laundry when you are sitting around and relaxing. After every meal quickly rinse the dishes and either set them in a neat pile on the sink or counter (or drainer) or put them in the dish washer right away. Your kids only answered the door because they knew it was daddy.
Just try and do little things around the house when you can. Keep a laundry basket in a certain easily accessible room around the house so you can drop off laundry you pick up as you go. Direct your kids where to put toys, help them pick up.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
its ok. you are a new mother. but dont let it stay like that forever... :)Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
yes you should clean it becuse you been a bad boyShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I don't think you shouod feel bad, but just remember , it is important to your state of mind to have a pleaseant environment. Try to do little things, like folding while you are sitting, etc. It will have to get done eventually, and the worse you let it go, the worse you will feel. Good luck.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I would not worry about it. I think it will be apparent to a judge that the state of the house was because you are recovering from having a baby. AS long as you have utilities and are not at risk of losing your home, you are still a better choice for a custodial parent for the children.
as for your headache...did you maybe have an epidural/spinal? I had a spinal with my second child and a few days after she was born I got a %26quot;spinal headache%26quot;. It was migraine quality and is apparently caused by a minor leak of spinal fluid at the site of the catheter.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Say no more ...the baby is 2 weeks! You do not need any excuse, just relax and keep in mind your priorities! Keep your kids healthy and happy and keep yourself happy and focused. The house will get clean eventually. Do not let it stay yucky for too long or you will go crazy!! Take it a room at a time and once you start feeling overwhelmed, give yourself a break and then go back to it.
Make sure you are sleeping when you can!!Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
The things you need to do are get your house cleaned up and keep it that way. When you go into court, the judge is more than likely going to say they understand about the new baby. When you get your kids back, if you are having a problem waking up to get them to school, you can set your alarm to make sure they get up in time and you can go right back to sleep.
Does Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
i COULD BE PREGNET BUT I DONT WANT IT TO CHANGE HOW ME AND MY FIANCE ARE NOW! HE IS EXCITED BUT i am scared it could ruin us as a couple? our realationship is really good right now with a few ups and downs but... please reply and give me some tips or insight on what u know or think- thanksDoes Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
Kegel exercises. Lots of them.Does Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
Me and my man had our ups and downs as well, but once I became pregnant, we grew together, it brought us closer, we had to grow up and it was then that we realized how our life was suppose to be. Things have been great and we now have our baby in common. Things will be okay, try not to stress, things happen and work out themselvesDoes Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
The baby will bring you even closer. If he is as excited as you say, this is something he has been wanting. When a man is unhappy that you are pregnant, trust me it will show. Have some confidence in him. This, besides your marriage will be one of the greatest things that could ever happen for the both of you. Bringing life into the world. Everyone isnt able to do so. Feel Blessed.Does Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
Well it will change,good or bad it really depends.I know from experience that you cant really do the things you want and use to do at least not in the early years,and i do miss the attention my girlfriend use to give me and vice versa it not just the two of you any more,I'm not saying the attention isn't there just not nearly as much as there was.Having a baby will test your relationship it does put a strain on the both of you but just remember be strong and like before you have to work at a relationship it just doesn't happen.But I'm sure you and your fiance will do just fine,and CONGRATULATIONS.Does Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
It goes either way if he is happy that you are pregnet then he is ready to be a father and be happy
Kegel exercises. Lots of them.Does Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
Me and my man had our ups and downs as well, but once I became pregnant, we grew together, it brought us closer, we had to grow up and it was then that we realized how our life was suppose to be. Things have been great and we now have our baby in common. Things will be okay, try not to stress, things happen and work out themselvesDoes Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
The baby will bring you even closer. If he is as excited as you say, this is something he has been wanting. When a man is unhappy that you are pregnant, trust me it will show. Have some confidence in him. This, besides your marriage will be one of the greatest things that could ever happen for the both of you. Bringing life into the world. Everyone isnt able to do so. Feel Blessed.Does Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
Well it will change,good or bad it really depends.I know from experience that you cant really do the things you want and use to do at least not in the early years,and i do miss the attention my girlfriend use to give me and vice versa it not just the two of you any more,I'm not saying the attention isn't there just not nearly as much as there was.Having a baby will test your relationship it does put a strain on the both of you but just remember be strong and like before you have to work at a relationship it just doesn't happen.But I'm sure you and your fiance will do just fine,and CONGRATULATIONS.Does Haveing A Baby Change A REALATIONSHIP FOR GOOD OR BAD?
It goes either way if he is happy that you are pregnet then he is ready to be a father and be happy
How did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
im 36 weeks pregnant. me and my husband have a great relationship (besides my hormones driving us both crazy and getting us into some silly arguments). im just wondering what kind of things i can expect to change after the baby is born.
im starting to get worried because the few people i've known who've had babies experienced some hard times with their boyfriends after the baby.(although im not to sure if they had good relationships to begin with) most of them ended up breaking up. im hoping that becuase we're married and our relationship is pretty strong we wont have as hard of a time. so what can i expect? do you have any good advice to prevent major problems? thanksHow did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
It kick-started our relationship, again. Your marriage will absolutely change, mostly for the better. The sex will slow down but the love will increase. We're an inseparable three-some with my son.
Don't smother or withhold the child and let him be a real father. He's gonna be rougher and less controlling. Let this happen and don't always inject your safety-first instincts. When he throws your daughter in the air, close your mouth and your eyes.
This will be the toughest job you'll ever love.
Read, understand and follow two books:
http://www.loveandlogic.com/
http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-WillHow did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
It renewed our sense of a common purpose.How did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
you sound like one of you or both of you are to young or just to immature to have taken on the responsibility of a marriage.How did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
you know, its hard tosay. i have four kids, and my husband wasnt totally there during the pregnancy. he didnt understad quite what i was going through. i recieved NO back rubs and NO visits to the doctor, after the kids came, he was the best father you could ask for, however, not the best in the husband department. I dont want to discourage you, but I wouldnt expect too much out of him. I dont think it is his fault, though, theyre like puppies, if they get one thing right, then they are good. there is nothing you can do about that. They are just men, and I guess you deal with it. p.s. if he has money, then just get a nanny and go shopping. hahahahahaHow did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
YEAH MY HUSBAND WAS THE SAME WAY HE WASN'T THERE FOR ME WHILE I WAS PREGNANT AND MY SON WAS ACTUALLY BORN 5 WEEKS EARLY AND WAS LITTLE AND HAD A FEW PROBLEMS AND HE WASN'T THERE FOR ME AS A HUSBAND BUT HE IS THE BEST DAD IN THE WOULD TO OUR SON.How did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
No experience in this department yet so pass this questionHow did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
It has brought us closer in some ways. Like anything else in life, it's up and it's down but it's a helluva ride.low cost web hosting why does my computer eyes hade crash
im starting to get worried because the few people i've known who've had babies experienced some hard times with their boyfriends after the baby.(although im not to sure if they had good relationships to begin with) most of them ended up breaking up. im hoping that becuase we're married and our relationship is pretty strong we wont have as hard of a time. so what can i expect? do you have any good advice to prevent major problems? thanksHow did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
It kick-started our relationship, again. Your marriage will absolutely change, mostly for the better. The sex will slow down but the love will increase. We're an inseparable three-some with my son.
Don't smother or withhold the child and let him be a real father. He's gonna be rougher and less controlling. Let this happen and don't always inject your safety-first instincts. When he throws your daughter in the air, close your mouth and your eyes.
This will be the toughest job you'll ever love.
Read, understand and follow two books:
http://www.loveandlogic.com/
http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-WillHow did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
It renewed our sense of a common purpose.How did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
you sound like one of you or both of you are to young or just to immature to have taken on the responsibility of a marriage.How did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
you know, its hard tosay. i have four kids, and my husband wasnt totally there during the pregnancy. he didnt understad quite what i was going through. i recieved NO back rubs and NO visits to the doctor, after the kids came, he was the best father you could ask for, however, not the best in the husband department. I dont want to discourage you, but I wouldnt expect too much out of him. I dont think it is his fault, though, theyre like puppies, if they get one thing right, then they are good. there is nothing you can do about that. They are just men, and I guess you deal with it. p.s. if he has money, then just get a nanny and go shopping. hahahahahaHow did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
YEAH MY HUSBAND WAS THE SAME WAY HE WASN'T THERE FOR ME WHILE I WAS PREGNANT AND MY SON WAS ACTUALLY BORN 5 WEEKS EARLY AND WAS LITTLE AND HAD A FEW PROBLEMS AND HE WASN'T THERE FOR ME AS A HUSBAND BUT HE IS THE BEST DAD IN THE WOULD TO OUR SON.How did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
No experience in this department yet so pass this questionHow did the birth of your baby change the relationship between you and your significant other?
It has brought us closer in some ways. Like anything else in life, it's up and it's down but it's a helluva ride.
Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I just had my daughter 2 weeks ago. I have a horrible headache that has not gone away for a week.
my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.
there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets
there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded
ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.
I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )
well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am
well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.
so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone
so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.
i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day
should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
you could have done a few chores intead of coming on here and typing so muchShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I don't think you are a bad parent. And I don't think anyone else could say so as well. Having an infant is TOUGH. So as long as the children are feed, happy and reasonably clean then it doesn't matter if your house is in perfect shape or not.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
go to the docs about the headache hunny he can give you advice to fix it and take maby just 1 hour to clean up a little and if you dont get much done oh well it dnt matterShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
No,you don't have to be worried.Lots of new parent's houses are a mess.It will get cleaned sooner or later :)
Its hard to juggle a newborn %26amp; Have time to clean.
ETA~
Get lost Seth!!
I really wish I could thumb you down right now!Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
why cant husband do the house chores too? come on youre a teamShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
One thing I can suggest, that is to hire a couple of kids from the neighborhood to come in and help with the housework. There are hundreds of kids between 12 and 16 looking for something to do to make money over the summer, have them come in and do the %26quot;small stuff%26quot; for you.
my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.
there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets
there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded
ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.
I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )
well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am
well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.
so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone
so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.
i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day
should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
you could have done a few chores intead of coming on here and typing so muchShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I don't think you are a bad parent. And I don't think anyone else could say so as well. Having an infant is TOUGH. So as long as the children are feed, happy and reasonably clean then it doesn't matter if your house is in perfect shape or not.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
go to the docs about the headache hunny he can give you advice to fix it and take maby just 1 hour to clean up a little and if you dont get much done oh well it dnt matterShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
No,you don't have to be worried.Lots of new parent's houses are a mess.It will get cleaned sooner or later :)
Its hard to juggle a newborn %26amp; Have time to clean.
ETA~
Get lost Seth!!
I really wish I could thumb you down right now!Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
why cant husband do the house chores too? come on youre a teamShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
One thing I can suggest, that is to hire a couple of kids from the neighborhood to come in and help with the housework. There are hundreds of kids between 12 and 16 looking for something to do to make money over the summer, have them come in and do the %26quot;small stuff%26quot; for you.
Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
My fiance are trying to concieve a baby and we are both up for it and more than ready. But have been thinking about how it will change our relationship. Can someone give me some advice?Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
It is definately your choice. But in my opinion I would wait until you were married to have a child. You should enjoy each other as a married couple for a year or so and then try. I am sure you have been together for quite some time and it feels like you are married I am sure, but it does change when you get married I think. It did for me anyway. I felt much closer to my husband and it just felt different. The simple fact that you have concerns and are questioning it may be a sign to wait. There is plenty of time to have a baby, why not just enjoy each other and focus on your wedding. Then let baby come!Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
it all depends, it should bring you closer together being that its something you both have accomplished and brought in this world together. it takes both parents to raise children. on the other hand, it could ruin the reationship, as in the father would not want to take up his end of the parenting skills, this does happen. I am in no way saying it will definitly happen to you. but if your fiance is agreeing to have children with you, then there should be no major problems as he is ready to be a father and a great dad.Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
It does change a relationship. If the relationship is strong, it will take it to a whole other level. You will need that strength between you to get through it. Babies are cute and wonderful, but they're also a lot of work and pressure. If the relationship is shaky, it will make it worse. Babies don't save marriages or relationships.
Good luck.Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
more often than not it makes the relationship worse. I think it's more common though when the two of you aren't as well thought out about it as you should be. Who's getting up with the baby? how are you gonna feel when you're stuck in the house all fat and he's going out with the boys? do you both believe in spanking or just one of you does? if you don't have the same beliefs and styles in parenting then your headed for a lot of stress. check out how he was raised, that's how he'll unconsciously expect his kids to be raised 90% of the time. It's really hard on a lot of men to be replaced as the love of their womans life also. Lets face it, the baby comes first and he used to. Of course some people do it really well, but like I first said, more often than not it's the death blow to a relationship.Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
having a baby changes alot i mean alot.. you cant do the our time it has to do with both of you and what if you both have different disciplen ..and you can have sex anytime you wantWould having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
It all depends... do you or did you go out a lot? Do you enjoy partying, having a good time, drinking, spending time with friends? If you live it up now and then suddenly have a baby you will miss having a good time when you're at home with the baby. You might be unhappy, resentful, and angry that you can no longer go out with your friends. Your friends will change too - if they don't have children then they will care less about what little Baby can do. They'll get tired of hearing about something they cannot relate to.
If you don't go out, don't drink, don't party then you won't miss it.
I don't drink or party. I work, make dinner, and do college classes online. It might sound like a boring life but I love it. My husband and I have started talking about having a baby. Since neither of us party we wouldn't miss going out and %26quot;having a good time%26quot;. We have a good time relaxing, watching tv, and eating dinner together.
To me, a baby would be an exciting addition but to a party-goer, a baby would keep the person from going out.Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
can be good or bad
It is definately your choice. But in my opinion I would wait until you were married to have a child. You should enjoy each other as a married couple for a year or so and then try. I am sure you have been together for quite some time and it feels like you are married I am sure, but it does change when you get married I think. It did for me anyway. I felt much closer to my husband and it just felt different. The simple fact that you have concerns and are questioning it may be a sign to wait. There is plenty of time to have a baby, why not just enjoy each other and focus on your wedding. Then let baby come!Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
it all depends, it should bring you closer together being that its something you both have accomplished and brought in this world together. it takes both parents to raise children. on the other hand, it could ruin the reationship, as in the father would not want to take up his end of the parenting skills, this does happen. I am in no way saying it will definitly happen to you. but if your fiance is agreeing to have children with you, then there should be no major problems as he is ready to be a father and a great dad.Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
It does change a relationship. If the relationship is strong, it will take it to a whole other level. You will need that strength between you to get through it. Babies are cute and wonderful, but they're also a lot of work and pressure. If the relationship is shaky, it will make it worse. Babies don't save marriages or relationships.
Good luck.Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
more often than not it makes the relationship worse. I think it's more common though when the two of you aren't as well thought out about it as you should be. Who's getting up with the baby? how are you gonna feel when you're stuck in the house all fat and he's going out with the boys? do you both believe in spanking or just one of you does? if you don't have the same beliefs and styles in parenting then your headed for a lot of stress. check out how he was raised, that's how he'll unconsciously expect his kids to be raised 90% of the time. It's really hard on a lot of men to be replaced as the love of their womans life also. Lets face it, the baby comes first and he used to. Of course some people do it really well, but like I first said, more often than not it's the death blow to a relationship.Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
having a baby changes alot i mean alot.. you cant do the our time it has to do with both of you and what if you both have different disciplen ..and you can have sex anytime you wantWould having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
It all depends... do you or did you go out a lot? Do you enjoy partying, having a good time, drinking, spending time with friends? If you live it up now and then suddenly have a baby you will miss having a good time when you're at home with the baby. You might be unhappy, resentful, and angry that you can no longer go out with your friends. Your friends will change too - if they don't have children then they will care less about what little Baby can do. They'll get tired of hearing about something they cannot relate to.
If you don't go out, don't drink, don't party then you won't miss it.
I don't drink or party. I work, make dinner, and do college classes online. It might sound like a boring life but I love it. My husband and I have started talking about having a baby. Since neither of us party we wouldn't miss going out and %26quot;having a good time%26quot;. We have a good time relaxing, watching tv, and eating dinner together.
To me, a baby would be an exciting addition but to a party-goer, a baby would keep the person from going out.Would having a baby change a relationship for the worse?
can be good or bad
Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I just had my daughter 2 weeks ago. I have a horrible headache that has not gone away for a week.
my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.
there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets
there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded
ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.
I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )
well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am
well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.
so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone
so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.
i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day
should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Bloody hell. You dont half waffle on a load of rubbish. Could you not be a little more succinct?Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
get off the computer and clean up!Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Nope you shouldn't feel bad at all. =) Having a new baby is a lot of work and time. Just take care of your baby and rest.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
No, just try your best and go see a doctor about your head.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
You have a 2 week old baby and 2 older kids in the house, of course your house isn't spotless. I wouldn't worry about it at all. When my son was 2 weeks old he had colic and was up crying until 4am some nights, thankfully he's my first so I didn't have any other kids to worry about. My house was a huge mess for his first 3+ months and still even after that depending on the day.
I assume you are married since you have a step child, it's your husband's job to help you out with this especially in the early days with a demanding newborn.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
No you should not feel bad. You should only feel bad if you were
ignoring/neglecting/not taking care of your newborn and older children, and cleaning up instead.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
if your house is a bit messy, that's okay with a new baby. but, if it's dirty and your kids are unsupervised and unkempt then you need more help. try calling in a cleaning service (we do that for a few months after we have a baby) or even hiring a part-time babysitter to watch your kids during the day. yeah, you might worry if this happens more often than not though.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Don't worry about it.............. you JUST had a baby. seriously tell everyone to f*ck off and tell them to push a kid outta their pussy and then have a perfect house.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I dont have a whole house to clean up but i have only one room to clean and its messy as anything because i just had a baby 2w 5d ago dont worrie about it if they say anything to you then explain to them what was going on that day.
I just had my daughter 2 weeks ago. I have a horrible headache that has not gone away for a week.
my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.
there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets
there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded
ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.
I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )
well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am
well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.
so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone
so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.
i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day
should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Bloody hell. You dont half waffle on a load of rubbish. Could you not be a little more succinct?Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
get off the computer and clean up!Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Nope you shouldn't feel bad at all. =) Having a new baby is a lot of work and time. Just take care of your baby and rest.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
No, just try your best and go see a doctor about your head.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
You have a 2 week old baby and 2 older kids in the house, of course your house isn't spotless. I wouldn't worry about it at all. When my son was 2 weeks old he had colic and was up crying until 4am some nights, thankfully he's my first so I didn't have any other kids to worry about. My house was a huge mess for his first 3+ months and still even after that depending on the day.
I assume you are married since you have a step child, it's your husband's job to help you out with this especially in the early days with a demanding newborn.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
No you should not feel bad. You should only feel bad if you were
ignoring/neglecting/not taking care of your newborn and older children, and cleaning up instead.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
if your house is a bit messy, that's okay with a new baby. but, if it's dirty and your kids are unsupervised and unkempt then you need more help. try calling in a cleaning service (we do that for a few months after we have a baby) or even hiring a part-time babysitter to watch your kids during the day. yeah, you might worry if this happens more often than not though.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Don't worry about it.............. you JUST had a baby. seriously tell everyone to f*ck off and tell them to push a kid outta their pussy and then have a perfect house.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I dont have a whole house to clean up but i have only one room to clean and its messy as anything because i just had a baby 2w 5d ago dont worrie about it if they say anything to you then explain to them what was going on that day.
How drastically does having a baby change your life?
I'm five months pregnant with twin girls...I've always been rather self-absorbed and into just doing things that I want to do and doing things at the spur of the moment, traveling, etc...I'm used to doing a lot of things whenever I want, wherever I want. I've never had to care for anyone else in my life and have never even babysat ever (I have no younger siblings and never had a babysitting job). I've never been around babies much and don't know what its like to take care of them on a day to day basis. How hard really is it to take care of a baby? How drastically did having a baby change your life? Did it take you a lot of time to adjust? With newborns are you always exhausted?How drastically does having a baby change your life?
Everything you just explained will be put on hold, flipped upside down, put off, etc. You will not have time in the first few weeks to have anytime really to yourself. Motherhood is a learning experience, on the job training you can say. If you are unsure of how to care for a baby (babies in your case) I suggest you take a parenting class, and/or baby basics class. Most hospitals where you plan on delivering offer these types of classes. I had my daughter 12 weeks ago, and am still adjusting. I was always exhausted, especially since I breastfeed. It's just getting to where things are really settling, and getting into routine, and to where I can get more than just 2 hrs of sleep at night.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
It changes everything, you become more loving more watchful, worried, sleepy ect
your really in for it.
but on the other hand its mostly a beautiful thing and after the toddler stage you can go back to whatever you were doing berfore/How drastically does having a baby change your life?
Just about every little aspect of your life changes. Your not the top priority anymore, and even in your own head you will put your needs behind the needs of your children. You wont be as spontaneous... but I'm a pretty spontaneous person, I still travel at the drop of a hat, and go somewhere as soon as the idea pops into my head, packing just takes a bit longer, and you think about it a little more before you leave. You become a whole different person, certain things done seem to matter anymore, and other things seem to be like a huge deal. Babies are extremely hard to care for, and I will assure you it's not a walk in the park, but it's the most rewarding thing you will every do in your life. You will be tired, frazzled and on edge, but for some strange crazy reason it's all worth it!How drastically does having a baby change your life?
For me, it wasn't *that* hard, because I've had insomnia since I was 11 so for the past 9 years I've been getting on average 3 hours of sleep a night, so the lack of sleep didn't bother me. The only bad thing with that is that you can't choose when you sleep, you sleep when you're baby sleeps regardless of when and how tired you are.
But as a person a baby really changes you. Before I had my daughter I was obsessed with shopping, I never left the house unless my hair was done and my makeup was done. Now I'd much rather blow all my money on my baby and I rarely get all dolled up haha And I'm a much more caring person. She's definetly softened my heart lolHow drastically does having a baby change your life?
It changes your life about 180 degrees but it is totally worth it. Im very self absorbed and always think about me and i get out and do things at the spur of the moment. Once i had my baby she is all i think about and i come last she comes first, that is actually the easy part. As far as the traveling, i still go when i want, i just take her with me. I don't want to be a mom that says %26quot;i can't i have a baby now, so i cant go here or there and it is just too hard%26quot;. So she comes along. I go on vacations whenever. I have had us both in pj's when my friend called and invited us to dinner so i just got dressed and went. My baby likes to be out and about.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
it is hard yes, but you dont have to give up your life either. im the same way i like to just get up and go. i ride horses and work with them so now i cant and its so aggravating, but when the baby is born i guess ill just have to bring it along with me to the barn. in the beginning stages sometimes they dont sleep some do tho. but alot of people give up their life to raise a baby when you dont have to. you can still travel and what not to. ya a baby sometimes will slow you down, but its worth it. raising a baby does seem kinda fun in a way tho to. even tho i have no idea what im doing. luckily my husband does or wed be in trouble.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
A baby is a huge change. And yes, with my newborn, I turned into a zombie pretty much. Lots of waking up, feeding, crying, and even the paranoia of watching for the baby's breathing can be tiring. It's physically and mentally exhausting.
I know with us, my husband and I can no longer spontaneously go to the newest movie that comes out, go to a restaurant on a whim (gotta pack and take the diaper bag along!) There are a lot of things that change, but the change is a beautiful one really. I was used to sleeping long hours every day, not anymore! =)
My priority is no longer on me, what I want, what I need. It's all about the baby. I do hope you have help though. It's very challenging to raise and take care of a baby. Your life will definitely change, it will never be the same. But I love my life more now with my daughter and husband than I did, and it must be because of the love I have for this little being I gave birth to.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
well for a person like you it might be difficult, because you wont be able to go where you want when you want
it also depends on the babies
some are amazingly calm, and all they do is sleep and eat
others cry a lot!
my lil girl has been so easy
she hardly ever cries
Everything you just explained will be put on hold, flipped upside down, put off, etc. You will not have time in the first few weeks to have anytime really to yourself. Motherhood is a learning experience, on the job training you can say. If you are unsure of how to care for a baby (babies in your case) I suggest you take a parenting class, and/or baby basics class. Most hospitals where you plan on delivering offer these types of classes. I had my daughter 12 weeks ago, and am still adjusting. I was always exhausted, especially since I breastfeed. It's just getting to where things are really settling, and getting into routine, and to where I can get more than just 2 hrs of sleep at night.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
It changes everything, you become more loving more watchful, worried, sleepy ect
your really in for it.
but on the other hand its mostly a beautiful thing and after the toddler stage you can go back to whatever you were doing berfore/How drastically does having a baby change your life?
Just about every little aspect of your life changes. Your not the top priority anymore, and even in your own head you will put your needs behind the needs of your children. You wont be as spontaneous... but I'm a pretty spontaneous person, I still travel at the drop of a hat, and go somewhere as soon as the idea pops into my head, packing just takes a bit longer, and you think about it a little more before you leave. You become a whole different person, certain things done seem to matter anymore, and other things seem to be like a huge deal. Babies are extremely hard to care for, and I will assure you it's not a walk in the park, but it's the most rewarding thing you will every do in your life. You will be tired, frazzled and on edge, but for some strange crazy reason it's all worth it!How drastically does having a baby change your life?
For me, it wasn't *that* hard, because I've had insomnia since I was 11 so for the past 9 years I've been getting on average 3 hours of sleep a night, so the lack of sleep didn't bother me. The only bad thing with that is that you can't choose when you sleep, you sleep when you're baby sleeps regardless of when and how tired you are.
But as a person a baby really changes you. Before I had my daughter I was obsessed with shopping, I never left the house unless my hair was done and my makeup was done. Now I'd much rather blow all my money on my baby and I rarely get all dolled up haha And I'm a much more caring person. She's definetly softened my heart lolHow drastically does having a baby change your life?
It changes your life about 180 degrees but it is totally worth it. Im very self absorbed and always think about me and i get out and do things at the spur of the moment. Once i had my baby she is all i think about and i come last she comes first, that is actually the easy part. As far as the traveling, i still go when i want, i just take her with me. I don't want to be a mom that says %26quot;i can't i have a baby now, so i cant go here or there and it is just too hard%26quot;. So she comes along. I go on vacations whenever. I have had us both in pj's when my friend called and invited us to dinner so i just got dressed and went. My baby likes to be out and about.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
it is hard yes, but you dont have to give up your life either. im the same way i like to just get up and go. i ride horses and work with them so now i cant and its so aggravating, but when the baby is born i guess ill just have to bring it along with me to the barn. in the beginning stages sometimes they dont sleep some do tho. but alot of people give up their life to raise a baby when you dont have to. you can still travel and what not to. ya a baby sometimes will slow you down, but its worth it. raising a baby does seem kinda fun in a way tho to. even tho i have no idea what im doing. luckily my husband does or wed be in trouble.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
A baby is a huge change. And yes, with my newborn, I turned into a zombie pretty much. Lots of waking up, feeding, crying, and even the paranoia of watching for the baby's breathing can be tiring. It's physically and mentally exhausting.
I know with us, my husband and I can no longer spontaneously go to the newest movie that comes out, go to a restaurant on a whim (gotta pack and take the diaper bag along!) There are a lot of things that change, but the change is a beautiful one really. I was used to sleeping long hours every day, not anymore! =)
My priority is no longer on me, what I want, what I need. It's all about the baby. I do hope you have help though. It's very challenging to raise and take care of a baby. Your life will definitely change, it will never be the same. But I love my life more now with my daughter and husband than I did, and it must be because of the love I have for this little being I gave birth to.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
well for a person like you it might be difficult, because you wont be able to go where you want when you want
it also depends on the babies
some are amazingly calm, and all they do is sleep and eat
others cry a lot!
my lil girl has been so easy
she hardly ever cries
Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I just had my daughter 2 weeks ago. I have a horrible headache that has not gone away for a week.
my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.
there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets
there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded
ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.
I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )
well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am
well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.
so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone
so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.
i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day
should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Don't worry. Anyone with a newborn and small children knows it's almost impossible to have an uncluttered house.
They won't say you're a bad parent because of a messy house. They might say he's not that great of a father if he can't put a roof over his children's heads and pay utilities so they will be comfortable though.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Don't worry about it. Your house looks lived in which it is.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
YEAH. NICE TO HAVE A BABY. A NEW BABY IN THE HOUSE IS A SYMBOL OF LIFE AND JOYShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
you have blessed with a great soul that has joined your family. love it and wel come as we need the child. you must thank god for it.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Are you alone with these kids?
Is the newborn one of his too?
If both are yes? he should be awed and gracious that they are all still alive!
My son is two, when he was newborn, our house was a wreck. I di all the laundry because the laundry was on another floor in the building. I took the trash out because the dumpster was across the parking lot. I went to work. Baby's crib was in the our room, So we took turns with feeding. All that teamwork, and things still got away from us. It happens with newborns. We were both sleepwalking for the first two months. I can't believe that you actually manage to keep two other, slightly older ones alive at the same time.
As far as the door, invest in a kady bar and install it up high where the little ones can't reach.
Oh yeah, I'm pretty sure that being able to house and feed children trumps %26quot;cleanliness%26quot; in custody cases, anyway.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
stop worrying and clean it up! oh by the way your baby is beautiful! god blessShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
He has no right to judge you from 1 visit and no prior reason to think you are a unfit parent. Enjoy your motherhood, good luck on gaining custody of the other 2 and congrats on being a new mommy.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I would not worry about it, my house is never clean at 8 am even if I clean it spotlessly the night before because my kids get up before me and destroy it. Besides you just had a baby! Anyone who's had a baby can understand how much lack of sleep you get. It doesn't make you a bad parent just because you have the usual %26quot;kid's messes%26quot;.how do ex smokers deal with shared hosting
I just had my daughter 2 weeks ago. I have a horrible headache that has not gone away for a week.
my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.
there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets
there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded
ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.
I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )
well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am
well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.
so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone
so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.
i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day
should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Don't worry. Anyone with a newborn and small children knows it's almost impossible to have an uncluttered house.
They won't say you're a bad parent because of a messy house. They might say he's not that great of a father if he can't put a roof over his children's heads and pay utilities so they will be comfortable though.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Don't worry about it. Your house looks lived in which it is.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
YEAH. NICE TO HAVE A BABY. A NEW BABY IN THE HOUSE IS A SYMBOL OF LIFE AND JOYShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
you have blessed with a great soul that has joined your family. love it and wel come as we need the child. you must thank god for it.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
Are you alone with these kids?
Is the newborn one of his too?
If both are yes? he should be awed and gracious that they are all still alive!
My son is two, when he was newborn, our house was a wreck. I di all the laundry because the laundry was on another floor in the building. I took the trash out because the dumpster was across the parking lot. I went to work. Baby's crib was in the our room, So we took turns with feeding. All that teamwork, and things still got away from us. It happens with newborns. We were both sleepwalking for the first two months. I can't believe that you actually manage to keep two other, slightly older ones alive at the same time.
As far as the door, invest in a kady bar and install it up high where the little ones can't reach.
Oh yeah, I'm pretty sure that being able to house and feed children trumps %26quot;cleanliness%26quot; in custody cases, anyway.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
stop worrying and clean it up! oh by the way your baby is beautiful! god blessShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
He has no right to judge you from 1 visit and no prior reason to think you are a unfit parent. Enjoy your motherhood, good luck on gaining custody of the other 2 and congrats on being a new mommy.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I would not worry about it, my house is never clean at 8 am even if I clean it spotlessly the night before because my kids get up before me and destroy it. Besides you just had a baby! Anyone who's had a baby can understand how much lack of sleep you get. It doesn't make you a bad parent just because you have the usual %26quot;kid's messes%26quot;.
Can you change a baby's name in Florida during the 1st year at little or no cost?
without the father knowing,,,,,,i chose to give my baby the father's last name, but we are not married and will never be married, how can i change her last name to mineCan you change a baby%26039;s name in Florida during the 1st year at little or no cost?
The best thing that you can do is to contact a family law attorney in regard to this matter. Because, even though you want to eliminate him from the child's life, the father still has rights under the law, that he may want to exercise.
In addition to that there are certain procedures that you will have to undertake in getting the name changed, and you will have to go to court and stand before a judge to get the name change approved.
This is a process that will take time as well as money, each state is different on the procedures and amount of money they cost, however, I am quite sure that the father will also be required to be present in court and asked if he approves of this name change.
In addition, you are entitled to child support from the father, which has to be set by the court, based on the father's income. He will also be required to provide medical coverage, if he has a plan through his employer, the child can be added onto that, if they have family plans.
But, before I did anything, I would get in contact with an attorney and explain you case to them, they can tell you the approximate cost, and how long a process and what is entailed.
The best thing that you can do is to contact a family law attorney in regard to this matter. Because, even though you want to eliminate him from the child's life, the father still has rights under the law, that he may want to exercise.
In addition to that there are certain procedures that you will have to undertake in getting the name changed, and you will have to go to court and stand before a judge to get the name change approved.
This is a process that will take time as well as money, each state is different on the procedures and amount of money they cost, however, I am quite sure that the father will also be required to be present in court and asked if he approves of this name change.
In addition, you are entitled to child support from the father, which has to be set by the court, based on the father's income. He will also be required to provide medical coverage, if he has a plan through his employer, the child can be added onto that, if they have family plans.
But, before I did anything, I would get in contact with an attorney and explain you case to them, they can tell you the approximate cost, and how long a process and what is entailed.
Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Ok, here's the details. My son was born October 4th last year and I need to get rid of this excess weight! I'm 28, about 5'9%26quot; and currently weigh close to 190. I need to lose like 40-50 pounds and slim down my thighs, waist, stomach and butt. I'm not trying to get 6 pack abs or anything, just want to fit into my old jeans. I used to be a size 9, now I'm a 14. Nothing fits, I hate my wordrobe. Anyway, I work from 8-5 and then go home, feed the baby, make dinner, change baby, put baby to bed, go on computer/relax for about an hour then go to bed. I just have no time for the gym at all. Mornings are not an option either. Sleeping is hard enough at night with the baby, can't get up at 5 to exercise. I'll be dead all day.
I eat cereal in the morning, a granola bar for a snack, salad or grilled chicken sandwich for lunch (or something else along those lines) and a healthy dinner. I don't eat junk, or snack much in the afternoon/evening or before bed.
Why do I feel like I'm getting fatter??Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Okay, i am dieting now! I had my last child in DEC. 2006. I have been dieting now for over a year! Its GREAT TO! I feel so much better.
I was put on 3000 calories a day by my docs. I couldnt have protein when prego so i had to help my baby grow by calories i took in. ARGH! It really packs on the pounds. With my first i gained over 50 pounds from it. Aand thats even with exercise every day! My second i gained 30 pounds and i had my kids back to back. I ended up at 230 pounds AFTER i had my last child in DEC 2006.
I am only 5'3%26quot; so that really SUCKED. I was wearing a 2X shirt and a size 18 jeans! ICK! I have never been overweight my whole life and i was not liking it at all. LOL!
I invested in TAEBO. I know it sounds ridiculous but you need a high impact work out that is going to target every aspect of your body pretty much. It might be hard at first but its FUN and you get use to it. I did it every other day and the days i didnt do it i did 100 crunches, 4-5 different type of leg lifts to target my inner and outer thighs, 10 lunges and 10 squats! Or as many as you can go. The squats make your butt perkier rather than saggier. LOL...The lunges target the thighs and calves.
Also, lower your calorie intake to 1200 calories a day! I know its not much but its not so much WHAT YOU EAT but its HOW MUCH YOU EAT!
Drink a BIG GLASS of water before you eat each and every meal. This is will damn near fill you up and when you eat dinner you wont as much. And you will fill up a lot faster. SO NO EXTRA CALORIES.
Dont restrict yourself from ANYTHING. I still eat ice cream and ice cream sandwhiches and chips, etc. the only thing i highly recommend you stay away from is PASTA. In one night i ate a handful of pasta b/c i wasnt really hungry and needless to say it made me gain 3 pounds in one night!!!
If you want to message me or send me an email so i can give you MORE details on exactly what leg lifts to do and how many i will.
SO you know...i can also email you pictures of the size changes of myself so you do know it works!
I AM PROUD TO SAY NOW THAT I WEIGH 156 POUNDS AND I HAVE GONE FROM A SIZE 18 JEANS TO A SIZE 8 JEAN!! I AM NOW IN A MEDIUM OR LARGE SHIRT RATHER THAN A 2X SHIRT. AND IN ONE YEAR AND ONE MONTH I HAVE LOST A TOTAL OF 74 POUNDS!!!!
SOME MIGHT THINK I AM STILL A FAT *** BUT I AM DAMN PROUD OF MYSELF AND I AM WILLING TO HELP ANYONE WHO FEELS THEY NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT OR NEEDS HELP STARTING!
Will power is a big part of this! Ya gotta have it!
Throw me an email for more details!!!!Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
There is no magic secret to weight loss post-baby or otherwise. Lay off the cookies and take the stairs; there are no shortcuts.
%26quot;I eat cereal in the morning, a granola bar for a snack, salad or grilled chicken sandwich for lunch (or something else along those lines) and a healthy dinner. I don't eat junk, or snack much in the afternoon/evening or before bed.
Why do I feel like I'm getting fatter??%26quot;
Either you are eating Froot Loops, candy bars disguised as granola bars, sandwiches from fast-food places that are laden with mayo, and big, lardy, bland American-style %26quot;healthy dinners,%26quot; or you are overlooking a lot of wee snacks here and there that are adding up. Weight is not made out of air. Keep a strict food diary and see what turns up. If you are really taking in fewer calories than you're burning, your old clothes will fit again; it just might take some time.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Do you have anyone to help you around the house? If you have ur hubby or bf there to help out maybe go for like a 15 min power walk after work just for some light excersise! Or a light jog! Maybe get a tredmill or some sort of work out machine that you can fold up and put in a closet or whatever that is easy to pull out and insted of getting on the comp after you pt the baby to bed get on it for like 20 min or so!!
You have time to go to the gym if you really want to...you are just lacking motivation...
Maybe try to talk to a doc and they have a pill that helps curb hunger cravings...my friend at work did them and dropped a lot of weight!Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
You need to work out ! Sure eating healthy is Great , But you need to work out an get that fat off your body ! Why not change that Computer/Relax time to %26quot;Work out time%26quot; ? !Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
A size 9 may never happen again simply because it's a juniors size. It's made for women who haven't developed hips. The even sizes are likely to fit better. A realistic size would be getting back down to an 8-10.
Walking is the best thing you can do. If you can 30min 5 times a week you should see a change. Weight watchers also has a great program that might be beneficial. It's fairly easy to follow and live with as well.
Good luck.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
how long is your lunch at work. try walking for at least 30 mintues. it will helpMoms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
The thing is your probably eating more calories then you realize. Very common for people to feel like they aren't really eating as much as they are.
I had a baby in May 2007 and I was 170 at 5'6. Now 3 months later I'm 137 and losing weight still. I joined LA weight loss a couple months ago. Basically I measure EVERYTHING I put in my mouth so I know exactly how much I'm getting. What your eye thinks is 1 cup isn't really 1 cup. It could be 2 or even 3 giving you MUCH more calories then you think. I eat only lean meats (I have always just ate white meats), lots more salads with little or no salad dressing and small servings of carbs ( like 1/3 cup of pasta is actually a serving...or 1 slice of regular bread). I eat low fat yougurt and fruit for a snack and I eat TONS of steamed veggies with no fat added.
I only really drink water and Nestle pure life flavored water if I want a treat. Ow and I have one cup of tea in the morning. There are TONS of extra calories in thinks like salad dressing's, condiments, sugars etc.
Granola bars for the most part are just as bad as candy bars with there sugars and carbs.
I really like www.fatsecret.com and www.sparkpeople.com. They are great websites.
Also look at www.theshapeofamother.com. I firmly believe no one will lose weight and keep it off if they don't love themselves, and all the changes a baby has made to there body. You are a beautiful women the way you are. Lose the weight for yourself not for anyone else! Then it will work!
Good luck!!!!Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
i lost mine with breastfeeding.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Hi, my son was born October 10th last year and I've lost about 25 pounds since. I don't exercise, I probably eat more than you do, and I also work 8-5. I even have a glass of hot milk before bed.
I really don't mean to argue about bottle vs breast, but it's probably the regular pumping of breast milk that helps.
But with all my friends, if it takes you 9 months to gain the weight, then it'll take you a minimum of 9 months to lose them. That is, without any special diets or exercise.
It also depends on your gene.
How long did it take your mother to get back in shape? That should be a guideline.
Good luck.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Since you say you have no time for exercise, a simple way to sneak it into your daily routine is to park far away from work, where you go shopping etc. We all tend to try to park the closest we can, when it's healier to walk.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
How about making some dinners over the weekend that are freezable? Maybe cutting up some veggies and chicken over the weekend, freezing it and making the dinner time less time consuming. During that 15 minutes that you would be cooking (or more) take your baby out for a brisk walk, then you can spend time with the baby and get some exercise. And in the computer relaxation time, trade it in for some ab work or some yoga or stretches, something that it is equally or even more relaxing. They have those 15-10 minute yoga videos, maybe this will take some stress away, help you sleep better (when at all possible) and burn off some calories or at least tighten up a bit. Or you could cut off the computer time and go to sleep right away. As soon as you get up in the morning, grab the baby and go for a walk. Walking is really really good for you and helps you loose weight rather quickly.
Good luck, it really is a pain to see yourself so much differently after having a child.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Go to a gymMoms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Instead of taking your time to be on the computer and relax, you should prob. be working out. I know you think you'll be too tired, and you prob. will be for a week or so, but you'll be surprised at how quickly you'll gain a lot of energy for both you and your baby. Also, on the weekends, take your baby out in the stroller and walk with him/her weather permitting. Your diet sounds like it's on track but you def. need to get moving!Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
congratulations................emmm baby number 2 ?....oopsMoms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
First off, eat allot of veggies and fruits, drink as much water as you can because water will stop your hunger, and of course you must exercises. When I had my son, I gained thirty pounds. I exercised, ate fruits and veggies and stayed away from carbs all together. Thankfully I did lose my weight. You just need to find the extra energy, the drive. Tell yourself you are not tired, you are not sleepy, you are not hungry, you need to lose this weight. Don't pity yourself, motivate your self. That's the only way you can do it.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
I was almost the same as you. I gained 45 pounds during pregnancy and miss my size6/8 body. I had never dieted the correct way before and never had to lose this much weight either. I did lose 25 in the first month but have had to work slowly to lose the past 10 (took 5 weeks) with a combo of dieting and excersize (I am not breastfeeding so I can diet). I have 10 to go and it feels great BUT IT IS REALLY REALLY HARD! And there is no other way around it. Stay focused, it will come back.... I am not sure why it is taking so long, maybe you really arent eating the right stuff or things have more calories than you think it does. I would say you should REALLY find time to excersize, that is what is going to kick start you and is probably why you arent losing it.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Well if you want to actually get rid of the baby belly you need to work for it and not use the excuse of not having time b/c if you have time to eat, you have time to exercise.
I get up at 5 a.m. to get out for a run and it makes me a happier person all around, exercise isn't just good for my body but my mind too so I make it happen b/c it's important to me.
Reality is the only way to lose weight is healthy diet and exercise period. You can't do one with out the other for lasting effects.
I eat cereal in the morning, a granola bar for a snack, salad or grilled chicken sandwich for lunch (or something else along those lines) and a healthy dinner. I don't eat junk, or snack much in the afternoon/evening or before bed.
Why do I feel like I'm getting fatter??Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Okay, i am dieting now! I had my last child in DEC. 2006. I have been dieting now for over a year! Its GREAT TO! I feel so much better.
I was put on 3000 calories a day by my docs. I couldnt have protein when prego so i had to help my baby grow by calories i took in. ARGH! It really packs on the pounds. With my first i gained over 50 pounds from it. Aand thats even with exercise every day! My second i gained 30 pounds and i had my kids back to back. I ended up at 230 pounds AFTER i had my last child in DEC 2006.
I am only 5'3%26quot; so that really SUCKED. I was wearing a 2X shirt and a size 18 jeans! ICK! I have never been overweight my whole life and i was not liking it at all. LOL!
I invested in TAEBO. I know it sounds ridiculous but you need a high impact work out that is going to target every aspect of your body pretty much. It might be hard at first but its FUN and you get use to it. I did it every other day and the days i didnt do it i did 100 crunches, 4-5 different type of leg lifts to target my inner and outer thighs, 10 lunges and 10 squats! Or as many as you can go. The squats make your butt perkier rather than saggier. LOL...The lunges target the thighs and calves.
Also, lower your calorie intake to 1200 calories a day! I know its not much but its not so much WHAT YOU EAT but its HOW MUCH YOU EAT!
Drink a BIG GLASS of water before you eat each and every meal. This is will damn near fill you up and when you eat dinner you wont as much. And you will fill up a lot faster. SO NO EXTRA CALORIES.
Dont restrict yourself from ANYTHING. I still eat ice cream and ice cream sandwhiches and chips, etc. the only thing i highly recommend you stay away from is PASTA. In one night i ate a handful of pasta b/c i wasnt really hungry and needless to say it made me gain 3 pounds in one night!!!
If you want to message me or send me an email so i can give you MORE details on exactly what leg lifts to do and how many i will.
SO you know...i can also email you pictures of the size changes of myself so you do know it works!
I AM PROUD TO SAY NOW THAT I WEIGH 156 POUNDS AND I HAVE GONE FROM A SIZE 18 JEANS TO A SIZE 8 JEAN!! I AM NOW IN A MEDIUM OR LARGE SHIRT RATHER THAN A 2X SHIRT. AND IN ONE YEAR AND ONE MONTH I HAVE LOST A TOTAL OF 74 POUNDS!!!!
SOME MIGHT THINK I AM STILL A FAT *** BUT I AM DAMN PROUD OF MYSELF AND I AM WILLING TO HELP ANYONE WHO FEELS THEY NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT OR NEEDS HELP STARTING!
Will power is a big part of this! Ya gotta have it!
Throw me an email for more details!!!!Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
There is no magic secret to weight loss post-baby or otherwise. Lay off the cookies and take the stairs; there are no shortcuts.
%26quot;I eat cereal in the morning, a granola bar for a snack, salad or grilled chicken sandwich for lunch (or something else along those lines) and a healthy dinner. I don't eat junk, or snack much in the afternoon/evening or before bed.
Why do I feel like I'm getting fatter??%26quot;
Either you are eating Froot Loops, candy bars disguised as granola bars, sandwiches from fast-food places that are laden with mayo, and big, lardy, bland American-style %26quot;healthy dinners,%26quot; or you are overlooking a lot of wee snacks here and there that are adding up. Weight is not made out of air. Keep a strict food diary and see what turns up. If you are really taking in fewer calories than you're burning, your old clothes will fit again; it just might take some time.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Do you have anyone to help you around the house? If you have ur hubby or bf there to help out maybe go for like a 15 min power walk after work just for some light excersise! Or a light jog! Maybe get a tredmill or some sort of work out machine that you can fold up and put in a closet or whatever that is easy to pull out and insted of getting on the comp after you pt the baby to bed get on it for like 20 min or so!!
You have time to go to the gym if you really want to...you are just lacking motivation...
Maybe try to talk to a doc and they have a pill that helps curb hunger cravings...my friend at work did them and dropped a lot of weight!Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
You need to work out ! Sure eating healthy is Great , But you need to work out an get that fat off your body ! Why not change that Computer/Relax time to %26quot;Work out time%26quot; ? !Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
A size 9 may never happen again simply because it's a juniors size. It's made for women who haven't developed hips. The even sizes are likely to fit better. A realistic size would be getting back down to an 8-10.
Walking is the best thing you can do. If you can 30min 5 times a week you should see a change. Weight watchers also has a great program that might be beneficial. It's fairly easy to follow and live with as well.
Good luck.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
how long is your lunch at work. try walking for at least 30 mintues. it will helpMoms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
The thing is your probably eating more calories then you realize. Very common for people to feel like they aren't really eating as much as they are.
I had a baby in May 2007 and I was 170 at 5'6. Now 3 months later I'm 137 and losing weight still. I joined LA weight loss a couple months ago. Basically I measure EVERYTHING I put in my mouth so I know exactly how much I'm getting. What your eye thinks is 1 cup isn't really 1 cup. It could be 2 or even 3 giving you MUCH more calories then you think. I eat only lean meats (I have always just ate white meats), lots more salads with little or no salad dressing and small servings of carbs ( like 1/3 cup of pasta is actually a serving...or 1 slice of regular bread). I eat low fat yougurt and fruit for a snack and I eat TONS of steamed veggies with no fat added.
I only really drink water and Nestle pure life flavored water if I want a treat. Ow and I have one cup of tea in the morning. There are TONS of extra calories in thinks like salad dressing's, condiments, sugars etc.
Granola bars for the most part are just as bad as candy bars with there sugars and carbs.
I really like www.fatsecret.com and www.sparkpeople.com. They are great websites.
Also look at www.theshapeofamother.com. I firmly believe no one will lose weight and keep it off if they don't love themselves, and all the changes a baby has made to there body. You are a beautiful women the way you are. Lose the weight for yourself not for anyone else! Then it will work!
Good luck!!!!Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
i lost mine with breastfeeding.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Hi, my son was born October 10th last year and I've lost about 25 pounds since. I don't exercise, I probably eat more than you do, and I also work 8-5. I even have a glass of hot milk before bed.
I really don't mean to argue about bottle vs breast, but it's probably the regular pumping of breast milk that helps.
But with all my friends, if it takes you 9 months to gain the weight, then it'll take you a minimum of 9 months to lose them. That is, without any special diets or exercise.
It also depends on your gene.
How long did it take your mother to get back in shape? That should be a guideline.
Good luck.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Since you say you have no time for exercise, a simple way to sneak it into your daily routine is to park far away from work, where you go shopping etc. We all tend to try to park the closest we can, when it's healier to walk.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
How about making some dinners over the weekend that are freezable? Maybe cutting up some veggies and chicken over the weekend, freezing it and making the dinner time less time consuming. During that 15 minutes that you would be cooking (or more) take your baby out for a brisk walk, then you can spend time with the baby and get some exercise. And in the computer relaxation time, trade it in for some ab work or some yoga or stretches, something that it is equally or even more relaxing. They have those 15-10 minute yoga videos, maybe this will take some stress away, help you sleep better (when at all possible) and burn off some calories or at least tighten up a bit. Or you could cut off the computer time and go to sleep right away. As soon as you get up in the morning, grab the baby and go for a walk. Walking is really really good for you and helps you loose weight rather quickly.
Good luck, it really is a pain to see yourself so much differently after having a child.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Go to a gymMoms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Instead of taking your time to be on the computer and relax, you should prob. be working out. I know you think you'll be too tired, and you prob. will be for a week or so, but you'll be surprised at how quickly you'll gain a lot of energy for both you and your baby. Also, on the weekends, take your baby out in the stroller and walk with him/her weather permitting. Your diet sounds like it's on track but you def. need to get moving!Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
congratulations................emmm baby number 2 ?....oopsMoms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
First off, eat allot of veggies and fruits, drink as much water as you can because water will stop your hunger, and of course you must exercises. When I had my son, I gained thirty pounds. I exercised, ate fruits and veggies and stayed away from carbs all together. Thankfully I did lose my weight. You just need to find the extra energy, the drive. Tell yourself you are not tired, you are not sleepy, you are not hungry, you need to lose this weight. Don't pity yourself, motivate your self. That's the only way you can do it.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
I was almost the same as you. I gained 45 pounds during pregnancy and miss my size6/8 body. I had never dieted the correct way before and never had to lose this much weight either. I did lose 25 in the first month but have had to work slowly to lose the past 10 (took 5 weeks) with a combo of dieting and excersize (I am not breastfeeding so I can diet). I have 10 to go and it feels great BUT IT IS REALLY REALLY HARD! And there is no other way around it. Stay focused, it will come back.... I am not sure why it is taking so long, maybe you really arent eating the right stuff or things have more calories than you think it does. I would say you should REALLY find time to excersize, that is what is going to kick start you and is probably why you arent losing it.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Well if you want to actually get rid of the baby belly you need to work for it and not use the excuse of not having time b/c if you have time to eat, you have time to exercise.
I get up at 5 a.m. to get out for a run and it makes me a happier person all around, exercise isn't just good for my body but my mind too so I make it happen b/c it's important to me.
Reality is the only way to lose weight is healthy diet and exercise period. You can't do one with out the other for lasting effects.
Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Ok, here's the details. My son was born October 4th last year and I need to get rid of this excess weight! I'm 28, about 5'9%26quot; and currently weigh close to 190. I need to lose like 40-50 pounds and slim down my thighs, waist, stomach and butt. I'm not trying to get 6 pack abs or anything, just want to fit into my old jeans. I used to be a size 9, now I'm a 14. Nothing fits, I hate my wordrobe. Anyway, I work from 8-5 and then go home, feed the baby, make dinner, change baby, put baby to bed, go on computer/relax for about an hour then go to bed. I just have no time for the gym at all. Mornings are not an option either. Sleeping is hard enough at night with the baby, can't get up at 5 to exercise. I'll be dead all day.
I eat cereal in the morning, a granola bar for a snack, salad or grilled chicken sandwich for lunch (or something else along those lines) and a healthy dinner. I don't eat junk, or snack much in the afternoon/evening or before bed.
Why do I feel like I'm getting fatter??Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Same situation. I had my baby back in May of 2007 and work the same hours you do. I come home do the same routine. You do not want to starve your body, it will put your body into shock, so you do have to feed your body/metabolism. Take snacks like carrots, fruit, nuts, anything that is not too high in fat, you can even break up your meals and eat them throughout the day. We are supose to have 3 small meals and two snacks a day. To solve the exercising take it one step at a time. The easiest thing to do is get a exercise machine that you can jump on and off and be able to work out and watch TV at the same time. If a machine is too expensive, it is warming up and you may just want to go for a scroll or walk up and down the stairs at work. You can even do 15 mins in the morning and 15 mins at night. Do what works for you.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
it takes time give it at least 6 months after you had the baby...before i was pregnant i weighed 130 then i got up to 165...i just gave it time and i felt like a fat pig but it wasnt until 5 months later i lost all the weight i gain but i still have a lil belly...my diet was usually ham and cheese sandwich in the morning, home made soup( I THINK THIS HELPED THE MOST) for lunch and chicken and rice almost every nightMoms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Well i had a son in Jan of last year and i work in an office enviroment from 8-5 also so at lunch time i usually walk around my office outside and drink TONs of water i do weird things while sitting in my chair like twisting or something so im always moving just a good way to keep you heart rate up and always burning fat! it worked for me!
I eat cereal in the morning, a granola bar for a snack, salad or grilled chicken sandwich for lunch (or something else along those lines) and a healthy dinner. I don't eat junk, or snack much in the afternoon/evening or before bed.
Why do I feel like I'm getting fatter??Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Same situation. I had my baby back in May of 2007 and work the same hours you do. I come home do the same routine. You do not want to starve your body, it will put your body into shock, so you do have to feed your body/metabolism. Take snacks like carrots, fruit, nuts, anything that is not too high in fat, you can even break up your meals and eat them throughout the day. We are supose to have 3 small meals and two snacks a day. To solve the exercising take it one step at a time. The easiest thing to do is get a exercise machine that you can jump on and off and be able to work out and watch TV at the same time. If a machine is too expensive, it is warming up and you may just want to go for a scroll or walk up and down the stairs at work. You can even do 15 mins in the morning and 15 mins at night. Do what works for you.Moms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
it takes time give it at least 6 months after you had the baby...before i was pregnant i weighed 130 then i got up to 165...i just gave it time and i felt like a fat pig but it wasnt until 5 months later i lost all the weight i gain but i still have a lil belly...my diet was usually ham and cheese sandwich in the morning, home made soup( I THINK THIS HELPED THE MOST) for lunch and chicken and rice almost every nightMoms!! How did you lose your baby belly?? Please help! Any suggestions please!?
Well i had a son in Jan of last year and i work in an office enviroment from 8-5 also so at lunch time i usually walk around my office outside and drink TONs of water i do weird things while sitting in my chair like twisting or something so im always moving just a good way to keep you heart rate up and always burning fat! it worked for me!
Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
Just wondering if you realised all the changes you'd have to your body after giving birth? I think it's a shock to many women and I'm worried I'll change completely and be unattractive to my husband after giving birth.
Have you seen this website? www.theshapeofamother.com I think many people don't realise how women's bodies will change post-baby and if it was spoken about more, maybe less people would feel insecure about their bodies.
What do you think?Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
I love that site! I remember just sitting there crying as I looked over the site for the first time, realizing that i wasn't the only one who carried the marks of being a mother.
With my first child I had no clue how much my body would change. I naively thought that after the baby was born I would go right back to my flat tummy and size 5 jeans. Even though I was down to a 7 a couple weeks I was still appalled at what I saw in the mirror. No amount of exercise will get rid of loose skin and stretch marks.
My husband is great, he calls my stretch marks battle scars and occasionally reminds me that they don't bother him in the slightest. Then he laughs and says %26quot;besides, I helped you put them there!%26quot;
You're right, we need to be more out spoken about the changes our bodies go through. We need to know that even the most gorgeous looking mothers still carry stretch marks and all the other evidences of their pregnancy under their clothes. Motherhood is a beautiful thing and we shouldn't be ashamed of the changes.
Thank you for posting this! :)Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
I think that my body has not changed much - and the changes there have been may just as well just be due to age and lack of exercise.
I have always been slim, I still am. After my second baby I got quite thin, due to being constantly on the go and not eating proper meals. It is better now.
After my first one, both my tummy and my breasts got back to normal within a year. No change, but second time round I have developed a small tummy and my breasts are smaller than they were (or maybe I just got used to their size when breastfeeding. I think that my little tummy would have disappeared had i done a few sit ups, but I just don't prioritise it. Quite used to it now.
What else.. My gums were not too good during the pregnancies and I think that it shows. Something that I am quite sad about, but I am sure that no one else has noticed.
Another thing - is that I have been carrying my babies around a lot, which has given me backache, but I think that this could also be helped with a bit of exercise...
All in all I look pretty much the same. Not sure I feel it though. I have not got as much energy as I used to.
Interesting question, but for me the changes to my body are not as important as the changes having babies have made to my life.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
with my first pregnancy i never saw it coming lol... %26amp; it was a big shock i hated my post baby body %26amp; thought i was disgusting
after my second pregnancy i knew what was coming so i ended up accepting the changes %26amp; loving my body :)
my third same but still every now %26amp; then i look at the stretch marks %26amp; the fatty bits lol.. n think eww but i have learnt to live with it %26amp; i get so happy when i lose weight lol lol...
but yes i think talking about it would help women to be prepared after birth that not all women are going to have a stretch mark free body %26amp; fat free that our bodies are going to change :)Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
That is a great website. Thank you for sharing it. I always knew my body would change, but it didn't change the way I was viewed by my boyfriend. He thought I was beautiful. You do an amazing thing while pregnant and my new body shows that.
I definitely think it should be spoken about more. All we hear about is how these celebrities are back to pre-baby body within 3 months. I think it is ridiculous, and puts unneeded pressure on the rest of us that can't afford a full time nanny so we can work out with a personal trainer 8 hours a day.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
I never realised how my body would change no. I never I was a size 8 in clothes and never had any stretch marks so being pregnant made my whole body covered with them which was a shock and even more after having my son and seeing my body. I know my son was worth it thought and my fiance loves me just as much so I am happy.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
Honestly my body didn't change. My hips were wider while pregnant, but contrary to popular belief they shrank back to normal within weeks after giving birth. In fact I was slimmer and in better shape after pregnancy. It depends on the woman I think, if you try to stay in shape before and during pregnancy you have an easier time getting back there after it's all over.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
Yes, my body was never the same. My breasts were shaped differently and my hips were definitely wider....I am not insecure tho and my husband likes me the way I am, after all I did birth his child, he can put up with in perfection. Love is not about who has the nicest body to us.
Love this website!Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
i am a man, and my wife is as attractive as she has always been to me, after giving birth, you do add some weight, but for me she is a beautiful person, and as long as she is happy with how she looks, i will always love her, no matter how she looks like.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
I think that people should just eat well, excercise moderately and let their body form naturally and healthy.
yes I do realize how the shape of a woman changes after giving birth.
Have you seen this website? www.theshapeofamother.com I think many people don't realise how women's bodies will change post-baby and if it was spoken about more, maybe less people would feel insecure about their bodies.
What do you think?Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
I love that site! I remember just sitting there crying as I looked over the site for the first time, realizing that i wasn't the only one who carried the marks of being a mother.
With my first child I had no clue how much my body would change. I naively thought that after the baby was born I would go right back to my flat tummy and size 5 jeans. Even though I was down to a 7 a couple weeks I was still appalled at what I saw in the mirror. No amount of exercise will get rid of loose skin and stretch marks.
My husband is great, he calls my stretch marks battle scars and occasionally reminds me that they don't bother him in the slightest. Then he laughs and says %26quot;besides, I helped you put them there!%26quot;
You're right, we need to be more out spoken about the changes our bodies go through. We need to know that even the most gorgeous looking mothers still carry stretch marks and all the other evidences of their pregnancy under their clothes. Motherhood is a beautiful thing and we shouldn't be ashamed of the changes.
Thank you for posting this! :)Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
I think that my body has not changed much - and the changes there have been may just as well just be due to age and lack of exercise.
I have always been slim, I still am. After my second baby I got quite thin, due to being constantly on the go and not eating proper meals. It is better now.
After my first one, both my tummy and my breasts got back to normal within a year. No change, but second time round I have developed a small tummy and my breasts are smaller than they were (or maybe I just got used to their size when breastfeeding. I think that my little tummy would have disappeared had i done a few sit ups, but I just don't prioritise it. Quite used to it now.
What else.. My gums were not too good during the pregnancies and I think that it shows. Something that I am quite sad about, but I am sure that no one else has noticed.
Another thing - is that I have been carrying my babies around a lot, which has given me backache, but I think that this could also be helped with a bit of exercise...
All in all I look pretty much the same. Not sure I feel it though. I have not got as much energy as I used to.
Interesting question, but for me the changes to my body are not as important as the changes having babies have made to my life.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
with my first pregnancy i never saw it coming lol... %26amp; it was a big shock i hated my post baby body %26amp; thought i was disgusting
after my second pregnancy i knew what was coming so i ended up accepting the changes %26amp; loving my body :)
my third same but still every now %26amp; then i look at the stretch marks %26amp; the fatty bits lol.. n think eww but i have learnt to live with it %26amp; i get so happy when i lose weight lol lol...
but yes i think talking about it would help women to be prepared after birth that not all women are going to have a stretch mark free body %26amp; fat free that our bodies are going to change :)Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
That is a great website. Thank you for sharing it. I always knew my body would change, but it didn't change the way I was viewed by my boyfriend. He thought I was beautiful. You do an amazing thing while pregnant and my new body shows that.
I definitely think it should be spoken about more. All we hear about is how these celebrities are back to pre-baby body within 3 months. I think it is ridiculous, and puts unneeded pressure on the rest of us that can't afford a full time nanny so we can work out with a personal trainer 8 hours a day.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
I never realised how my body would change no. I never I was a size 8 in clothes and never had any stretch marks so being pregnant made my whole body covered with them which was a shock and even more after having my son and seeing my body. I know my son was worth it thought and my fiance loves me just as much so I am happy.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
Honestly my body didn't change. My hips were wider while pregnant, but contrary to popular belief they shrank back to normal within weeks after giving birth. In fact I was slimmer and in better shape after pregnancy. It depends on the woman I think, if you try to stay in shape before and during pregnancy you have an easier time getting back there after it's all over.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
Yes, my body was never the same. My breasts were shaped differently and my hips were definitely wider....I am not insecure tho and my husband likes me the way I am, after all I did birth his child, he can put up with in perfection. Love is not about who has the nicest body to us.
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i am a man, and my wife is as attractive as she has always been to me, after giving birth, you do add some weight, but for me she is a beautiful person, and as long as she is happy with how she looks, i will always love her, no matter how she looks like.Did you think your body would change after having a baby?
I think that people should just eat well, excercise moderately and let their body form naturally and healthy.
yes I do realize how the shape of a woman changes after giving birth.
How drastically does having a baby change your life?
I'm five months pregnant with twin girls...I've always been rather self-absorbed and into just doing things that I want to do and doing things at the spur of the moment, traveling, etc...I've never had to care for anyone else in my life and have never even babysat ever (I have no younger siblings and never had a baby sitting job). I've never been around babies much and don't really know how to take care of them. How hard really is it to take care of a baby? How drastically did having a baby change your life? It it take you a lot of time to adjust?How drastically does having a baby change your life?
In your case, it will change your life drastically. It won't be all about %26quot;me me me%26quot; anymore...you'll have two totally helpless little girls who depend on you for everything, and you'll be lucky if you can find 5 minutes in the day to take a quick shower, much less take off at the drop of a hat and go out with friends, to the movies, etc. Don't get me wrong--A) You CAN still do those things!! It just takes more planning than usual; and B) it'll be WELL worth it--trust me!
Babies are really easy to care for--especially in the beginning. All they do is eat, sleep and poop. :) Once they get a little older, you have to start watching out for them getting into stuff (once they start crawling/walking, etc. There's really nothing *difficult* about raising a child--it's just a LOT of work (but again, well worth it, you'll see!).
It is exhausting because until they become preschool aged, they can't do ANYTHING for themselves--can't dress themselves, can't feed themselves, can't pour themselves a glass of milk, can't use the toilet, etc. So yes, it's exhausting, and it never ends, but once again (and I'm sorry, I KNOW I sound like a broken record!) it is worth it.
The first time your girls smile at you, or run to the door with their little arms out when you've been at work all day and say, %26quot;mommy, we missed you!%26quot; and proceed to give you a wet, sloppy kiss, your heart will melt and you'll fall in love with them all over again!How drastically does having a baby change your life?
how drastically does it change your life? very...will it take a lot of time to adjust? not really...motherly instinct usually kicks in right away and it feels like it was always meant to be, like you don't even remember what you are missing...How drastically does having a baby change your life?
becoming a mom is a HUGE transformation. so huge, that you can only take it one day at a time. it's wonderful and when you bond with your babies it's the greatest thing. you won't be able to be self-absorbed anymore, but occasionally you'll need a babysitter so you can get away and have some time to yourself. once motherly instinct kicks in (right away) you'll know what to do.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
it changes very drastically. my sister had her first child at the age of 16, and she was always into doing what she wanted. as soon as she had her baby it all stopped. she didn't go out with her friends, she didn't have them come over as often, no more parties, random day trips to the lake or out of town. she had to start working full time to take care of her daughter, she spent every moment with her unless she was at work or school.
i guess when you actually have a baby you will adjust just fine because your motherly instincts kick in.girl tell you she likes you manitoba cottage rental
In your case, it will change your life drastically. It won't be all about %26quot;me me me%26quot; anymore...you'll have two totally helpless little girls who depend on you for everything, and you'll be lucky if you can find 5 minutes in the day to take a quick shower, much less take off at the drop of a hat and go out with friends, to the movies, etc. Don't get me wrong--A) You CAN still do those things!! It just takes more planning than usual; and B) it'll be WELL worth it--trust me!
Babies are really easy to care for--especially in the beginning. All they do is eat, sleep and poop. :) Once they get a little older, you have to start watching out for them getting into stuff (once they start crawling/walking, etc. There's really nothing *difficult* about raising a child--it's just a LOT of work (but again, well worth it, you'll see!).
It is exhausting because until they become preschool aged, they can't do ANYTHING for themselves--can't dress themselves, can't feed themselves, can't pour themselves a glass of milk, can't use the toilet, etc. So yes, it's exhausting, and it never ends, but once again (and I'm sorry, I KNOW I sound like a broken record!) it is worth it.
The first time your girls smile at you, or run to the door with their little arms out when you've been at work all day and say, %26quot;mommy, we missed you!%26quot; and proceed to give you a wet, sloppy kiss, your heart will melt and you'll fall in love with them all over again!How drastically does having a baby change your life?
how drastically does it change your life? very...will it take a lot of time to adjust? not really...motherly instinct usually kicks in right away and it feels like it was always meant to be, like you don't even remember what you are missing...How drastically does having a baby change your life?
becoming a mom is a HUGE transformation. so huge, that you can only take it one day at a time. it's wonderful and when you bond with your babies it's the greatest thing. you won't be able to be self-absorbed anymore, but occasionally you'll need a babysitter so you can get away and have some time to yourself. once motherly instinct kicks in (right away) you'll know what to do.How drastically does having a baby change your life?
it changes very drastically. my sister had her first child at the age of 16, and she was always into doing what she wanted. as soon as she had her baby it all stopped. she didn't go out with her friends, she didn't have them come over as often, no more parties, random day trips to the lake or out of town. she had to start working full time to take care of her daughter, she spent every moment with her unless she was at work or school.
i guess when you actually have a baby you will adjust just fine because your motherly instincts kick in.
How do you change a baby?
Well My Mom Went Out of town And she left me in charge cuz im 13 and she left my baby sister with me and my other sisters i have 3 sisters one is 11 10 and 12 months and we have to take care of my little sister so please help me i have NEVER changed her before SO PLEASE HELP!How do you change a baby?
Well your mom's not too bright. I'm pretty sure that's child neglect.How do you change a baby?
Get out some baby wipes (if it's poop, lay out more)
then open up the diaper.
Next, remove the diaper and wipe the baby...
Leave the wipes in the diaper, and place on a table...
Next you slide the new diaper under the child's butt
Pull up the front and unfold the tabs
Next you stick the tabs to the diaper.
After you put the diaper on, and button up the clothing...
Fold up the old diaper just as if it was on a baby, over it's self so it's an easy disposal.
Hope I helped!How do you change a baby?
Why would your mom leave a 13 year old to take care of a 1 year old and a three week old? Call your grandma to help you. Where's your dad in all this?How do you change a baby?
Once you get used to changing diapers, it is actually pretty simple. Lay out a fresh diaper (make sure you know her size!), some wipes, and possibly some cream if their bottom or private is red or irritated. Pull off their pants and carefully pull off the tabs on their diaper. If it is poop, take the upper inside part of the diaper and run it down their bottom. It helps to get some of the extra poop off. Then, take wipes and wipe their bottom and/or private clean. If your mom has high expectations, make sure you wipe off every ounce of poop. That would also just be good in general, too. Once they are all cleaned up, stuff the wipes in the diaper. Wrap the tabs around their diaper so it is shut and no poop or wipes fall out. Then, lift their bottom and put the bottom part of the diaper under them. Put the front part over their private and then do up the tabs. You want them to be tight so it doesn't fall off, but not TOO tight. Make sure the sticky part doesn't stick to their skin. It hurts when peeled off. Then, slip their pants back on. Properly dispose of the diaper and then wash your hands extra good! Also, if it is only pee, I usually don't wipe their private, but it is usually a good idea to just do one quick wipe over it for a refresher! And you only take about a dot of cream onto your finger. Smear it all over the part that is red. I hope I helped a little!
Well your mom's not too bright. I'm pretty sure that's child neglect.How do you change a baby?
Get out some baby wipes (if it's poop, lay out more)
then open up the diaper.
Next, remove the diaper and wipe the baby...
Leave the wipes in the diaper, and place on a table...
Next you slide the new diaper under the child's butt
Pull up the front and unfold the tabs
Next you stick the tabs to the diaper.
After you put the diaper on, and button up the clothing...
Fold up the old diaper just as if it was on a baby, over it's self so it's an easy disposal.
Hope I helped!How do you change a baby?
Why would your mom leave a 13 year old to take care of a 1 year old and a three week old? Call your grandma to help you. Where's your dad in all this?How do you change a baby?
Once you get used to changing diapers, it is actually pretty simple. Lay out a fresh diaper (make sure you know her size!), some wipes, and possibly some cream if their bottom or private is red or irritated. Pull off their pants and carefully pull off the tabs on their diaper. If it is poop, take the upper inside part of the diaper and run it down their bottom. It helps to get some of the extra poop off. Then, take wipes and wipe their bottom and/or private clean. If your mom has high expectations, make sure you wipe off every ounce of poop. That would also just be good in general, too. Once they are all cleaned up, stuff the wipes in the diaper. Wrap the tabs around their diaper so it is shut and no poop or wipes fall out. Then, lift their bottom and put the bottom part of the diaper under them. Put the front part over their private and then do up the tabs. You want them to be tight so it doesn't fall off, but not TOO tight. Make sure the sticky part doesn't stick to their skin. It hurts when peeled off. Then, slip their pants back on. Properly dispose of the diaper and then wash your hands extra good! Also, if it is only pee, I usually don't wipe their private, but it is usually a good idea to just do one quick wipe over it for a refresher! And you only take about a dot of cream onto your finger. Smear it all over the part that is red. I hope I helped a little!
How much did your baby change?
Hey ladies. I'm 31 weeks pregnant. Last ultrasound I had last week he was measuring 2 weeks ahead so my doctor will be doing another ultrasound in a couple weeks to see where we're at. If my baby is ahead of schedule and does arrive early that is completely fine with me! I'm due February 19th and my husband leaves for a year long deployment to Iraq March 26th. At least that's the date for now.. It's the Army so lord knows it could always change. Well our son should be around 5 weeks.. Give or take depending on when he decides to come! I was just wondering.. How much did your baby change in the first 5 weeks? What all did you experience? This is my first child and have no idea what to expect. I would love for my husband to be experience as much as possible before he has to leave.. Everything else he will have to see via video cameras and pictures.
Any experiences of what all your baby did the first 5 weeks or so would be great! Thanks!How much did your baby change?
My son did his first smile at 5 weeks !
Most babies do around 5/6 so that will be a nice thing for your husband to see.
Apart from that not much else, they are much more alert and some babies start to coo.
Hope your little one comes early so your hubby has a few extra weeks with the two of you :)How much did your baby change?
My son didn't do much other then cry, eat and poop for the first 5 weeks. To give you an idea of how they change here is 2 pictures. One when he was 4 days old and one when he was 5 weeks old. You will get to cuddle your baby lots, and enjoy the tiny person they are. That is about all really...bigger changes for my son in particular started around 8-10 weeks when he smiled and laughed. :)
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They change a lot, but over the months my sons look hasn't really changed all that much in my opinion anyway.How much did your baby change?
The first 5-6 weeks are definitely the hardest. Adjusting to being new parents and sleep deprevation can be exhausting, particularly when you have a constant flow of visitors. To be honest, I can't remember much because it all just blurs into one, but I do remember how wonderful it felt to hold my son.
Physically babies change loads in the first few months. They tend to lose that red, scrunched up look (like an old man) pretty soon and also any stork marks etc tend to fade within the first few months. My son's skin changed colour and of course his eyes opened more often. He also had his first smile at five weeks so hopefully your husband will witness that before he goes away. He continued to cry at nappy changes for some time and he also started to cry more (probably due to wind) after feeds at about three weeks. He got a lot fatter too!
He began to notice things around him a little and would look up at me when I spoke or sang to him. He also started to get some sort of pattern of eating (although it was hit %26amp; miss) and was down to one night feed somewhere between 11pm and 6am. I know I felt more confident about what I was doing and also more balanced emotionally by 4-5 weeks.
good luck and congratulations.
Any experiences of what all your baby did the first 5 weeks or so would be great! Thanks!How much did your baby change?
My son did his first smile at 5 weeks !
Most babies do around 5/6 so that will be a nice thing for your husband to see.
Apart from that not much else, they are much more alert and some babies start to coo.
Hope your little one comes early so your hubby has a few extra weeks with the two of you :)How much did your baby change?
My son didn't do much other then cry, eat and poop for the first 5 weeks. To give you an idea of how they change here is 2 pictures. One when he was 4 days old and one when he was 5 weeks old. You will get to cuddle your baby lots, and enjoy the tiny person they are. That is about all really...bigger changes for my son in particular started around 8-10 weeks when he smiled and laughed. :)
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And now he is 18 months old.....
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They change a lot, but over the months my sons look hasn't really changed all that much in my opinion anyway.How much did your baby change?
The first 5-6 weeks are definitely the hardest. Adjusting to being new parents and sleep deprevation can be exhausting, particularly when you have a constant flow of visitors. To be honest, I can't remember much because it all just blurs into one, but I do remember how wonderful it felt to hold my son.
Physically babies change loads in the first few months. They tend to lose that red, scrunched up look (like an old man) pretty soon and also any stork marks etc tend to fade within the first few months. My son's skin changed colour and of course his eyes opened more often. He also had his first smile at five weeks so hopefully your husband will witness that before he goes away. He continued to cry at nappy changes for some time and he also started to cry more (probably due to wind) after feeds at about three weeks. He got a lot fatter too!
He began to notice things around him a little and would look up at me when I spoke or sang to him. He also started to get some sort of pattern of eating (although it was hit %26amp; miss) and was down to one night feed somewhere between 11pm and 6am. I know I felt more confident about what I was doing and also more balanced emotionally by 4-5 weeks.
good luck and congratulations.
Will a baby change our relationship?
Hello people let me tell you I been married only 7 months but live 5 years with now my husband.... We are almost the perfect couple we have our little arguments but who doesn't right? There is moments when I am holding him and just feel so Much love and so happy that I think will having a baby someday take this away from us? and I almost don't want a baby because of the fear of loosing that Passion and love that we share. I am super happy with my husband he is the love of my life and my best friend... Tell me do you regret having a baby? did things change ... Please don't be mean to me and be honest how do you really feel.Will a baby change our relationship?
Have the two of you disscussed the idea of children? If both of you have the same outlook on the idea of parenthood, then you are off to a great start...a baby NEVER takes away love, if it is true love. A baby only ADDS love. You dont lose the passion of love you share when a baby is born.
I dont regret having a baby. Things do change. A scheduled life with your child with many responsibilities that are going to be new and exciting. Some will be challenging, and yet rewarding, some will be hectic, yet possible. some will be frightning, yet together you will overcome the fear. And best of all each day when you look at your child, you will thank God for the blessing he has given you. Until the both of you decide what you want to do.......keep a diary.......a diary the two of you toghether share. make a list of all the possitives having a child has, and then a list of all the negatives having a child has..........weigh them................then together you decide.
keep in mind................if you both arent on the same page, then the idea of children should most definately wait.
Try the negative, possitive thing...........it helpsWill a baby change our relationship?
Yes, it changes everything, and for the first year or so, it can be very hard. But it's also nature's way, and not having kids is often a death sentence for a marriage. If you and he are ready, you should have some.Will a baby change our relationship?
Your relationship will change, no way around that but that doesn't have to be a negative.Will a baby change our relationship?
babies change things more than you can imagine, but we never regretted them for a momentWill a baby change our relationship?
I felt like having our daughter brought my husband and I closer together. If you want to keep the passion after having children then make sure that you both make time for each other. My husband and I have put our kids to bed at 8 pm since they were babies. After 8pm that is OUR time. It works for us.Will a baby change our relationship?
yes it will change everything. but in the best way possible. now you have this little life that completely depends on the 2 of you. that brings you closer to a person than you can ever imagine. yes adjusting will be difficult at first but believe me in the long run their will be no regrets.Will a baby change our relationship?
When I say this, I'm honestly not trying to be mean, but you're not ready for a baby yet.
When you have a child (or children) the relationship you had BC (before children) is gone forever. The life you have AC is great, but it can also be very trying, stressful, confusing, and you find yourself arguing a lot more with your spouse over silly things.
When you can separate yourself from your marriage in a healthy, productive way THEN you'll be ready for children.
Till then, just enjoy what you have. It sounds like it's a special bond.Will a baby change our relationship?
Congratulations on your recent marriage. Things do of course change when you introduce a baby into a relationship but change doesn't always mean a bad thing. You and your husband create this little being and for us it brought us closer together than I ever thought possible. You do have to make the passion and love things a priority in your relationship but that is true with or without kids.
Also relationship change all of the time, life causes changes - new job, illness, etc if your relationship is solid and you appreciate and nurture it than it will survive anything - including babies!Will a baby change our relationship?
Sorry to tell you but yes your whole world changes. Yes you will still love your husband but a baby will take up alot of your time at least the 1st couple of years a baby needs a lot of attention,but if your marriage is as strong as you say it is then you shouldn't have any problems.Will a baby change our relationship?
my son is now 8 months and hes on a schedual and just make sure that if you do end up having one to always be on a schedual or you will not get any alone time my son is now on a schedual and it is getting so much easier!Will a baby change our relationship?
I don't regret having my children at all, they've added a whole new dimension to our world for sure. I have to say though that if things are going this well for you as a couple right now though you may want to give it awhile before you have one. Why? Well the answer is multi-layered. Give yourself and your hubby time to bond with each other and work through the arguments, quirks and differences you'll encounter during the first year or 2 of marriage and then decide if you really want them. They are as much responsibility and inconvenience as people warn you about. If anyone tries to rush you tough crap. I say this because as much as I love my 3 boys it took me 3 drinks to calm down enough to write this. Today was exceptional thus the drinks because my twins of 7 were up my 11 year olds butt and he was taunting them back all day and the weekends been long since school's been off before it started. I went 10 years of marriage before having children and it worked very well...my wife and I got to do everything people dream of after they have kids early...trips, parties, travel, concerts, etc. Sometimes it's handier doing things when you're young than waiting till they're grown and you lack the money and health to bother. Good luckWill a baby change our relationship?
oh god no a baby changes nothing.
no sir, EVERYTHING will be EXACTLY like it used to be.
because you never have to feed babies, take them to the doctor, change them, burp them, hold them, watch them, protect them, love them, talk to them, hover over them, change them again, clean up their poop, clean up their barf, feed them again, change them again, clean up their barf again, hold them while they cry for 3 hours straight from 2 AM to 5 AM, sing to them, worry about them, listen to them sleeping, change their poopy diapers again, haul all the poopy diapers out to the trash, go buy 7 more tons of clean diapers they can make poopy once you buy them, buy formula, breast pump, clean up the breast pump, warm up the milk you pump, clean all the bottles and nipples, hold them, burp them, clean up their barf again, snuggle with them, look at their tiny hands, clean up their poop again, dream about them, wonder about their future, hover some more, make and take with you everywhere you go a 17 pound baby survival bag, carry them, gently sing them to sleep, nap with them, try to get 3 minutes of rest while they sleep, feel your body change as your hormones re-set after having the kid, which includes a super low sex drive for a few months, clean up the baby's pee, then the poop, wash everything, dry everything, let the baby get spit up on all your work clothes, put the baby down, pick the baby up, take the baby everywhere you go, and feed and change it again.
NO THAT NEVER HAPPENS.Will a baby change our relationship?
It changes things.. sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. If you look at it in the right way, it can enhance your relationship because the baby is both of you put together, it will be something that came out of your love for one another.
But if you have a baby for the wrong reasons, it can be detrimental to your relationship. It is an extension of your love, not something you have to keep you together.Will a baby change our relationship?
I do not regret having my daughter...but my husband who insisted that having children was a deal breaker never has adjusted to being a parent.
The changes are both subtle and substantial.
If you truly can't commit to being a mother, perhaps you had better put it off for several years.Will a baby change our relationship?
Yes it will change things. But that means more responsibility.Will a baby change our relationship?
you both have to wanted a baby ,,,,,,baby do change you ,,, tied down 24 /7 cost money just everday, life never the same ,,, but it very rewarding ,,, no't have a baby , if your mind saying you don't want kids ,, it will probable end your marriage
Have the two of you disscussed the idea of children? If both of you have the same outlook on the idea of parenthood, then you are off to a great start...a baby NEVER takes away love, if it is true love. A baby only ADDS love. You dont lose the passion of love you share when a baby is born.
I dont regret having a baby. Things do change. A scheduled life with your child with many responsibilities that are going to be new and exciting. Some will be challenging, and yet rewarding, some will be hectic, yet possible. some will be frightning, yet together you will overcome the fear. And best of all each day when you look at your child, you will thank God for the blessing he has given you. Until the both of you decide what you want to do.......keep a diary.......a diary the two of you toghether share. make a list of all the possitives having a child has, and then a list of all the negatives having a child has..........weigh them................then together you decide.
keep in mind................if you both arent on the same page, then the idea of children should most definately wait.
Try the negative, possitive thing...........it helpsWill a baby change our relationship?
Yes, it changes everything, and for the first year or so, it can be very hard. But it's also nature's way, and not having kids is often a death sentence for a marriage. If you and he are ready, you should have some.Will a baby change our relationship?
Your relationship will change, no way around that but that doesn't have to be a negative.Will a baby change our relationship?
babies change things more than you can imagine, but we never regretted them for a momentWill a baby change our relationship?
I felt like having our daughter brought my husband and I closer together. If you want to keep the passion after having children then make sure that you both make time for each other. My husband and I have put our kids to bed at 8 pm since they were babies. After 8pm that is OUR time. It works for us.Will a baby change our relationship?
yes it will change everything. but in the best way possible. now you have this little life that completely depends on the 2 of you. that brings you closer to a person than you can ever imagine. yes adjusting will be difficult at first but believe me in the long run their will be no regrets.Will a baby change our relationship?
When I say this, I'm honestly not trying to be mean, but you're not ready for a baby yet.
When you have a child (or children) the relationship you had BC (before children) is gone forever. The life you have AC is great, but it can also be very trying, stressful, confusing, and you find yourself arguing a lot more with your spouse over silly things.
When you can separate yourself from your marriage in a healthy, productive way THEN you'll be ready for children.
Till then, just enjoy what you have. It sounds like it's a special bond.Will a baby change our relationship?
Congratulations on your recent marriage. Things do of course change when you introduce a baby into a relationship but change doesn't always mean a bad thing. You and your husband create this little being and for us it brought us closer together than I ever thought possible. You do have to make the passion and love things a priority in your relationship but that is true with or without kids.
Also relationship change all of the time, life causes changes - new job, illness, etc if your relationship is solid and you appreciate and nurture it than it will survive anything - including babies!Will a baby change our relationship?
Sorry to tell you but yes your whole world changes. Yes you will still love your husband but a baby will take up alot of your time at least the 1st couple of years a baby needs a lot of attention,but if your marriage is as strong as you say it is then you shouldn't have any problems.Will a baby change our relationship?
my son is now 8 months and hes on a schedual and just make sure that if you do end up having one to always be on a schedual or you will not get any alone time my son is now on a schedual and it is getting so much easier!Will a baby change our relationship?
I don't regret having my children at all, they've added a whole new dimension to our world for sure. I have to say though that if things are going this well for you as a couple right now though you may want to give it awhile before you have one. Why? Well the answer is multi-layered. Give yourself and your hubby time to bond with each other and work through the arguments, quirks and differences you'll encounter during the first year or 2 of marriage and then decide if you really want them. They are as much responsibility and inconvenience as people warn you about. If anyone tries to rush you tough crap. I say this because as much as I love my 3 boys it took me 3 drinks to calm down enough to write this. Today was exceptional thus the drinks because my twins of 7 were up my 11 year olds butt and he was taunting them back all day and the weekends been long since school's been off before it started. I went 10 years of marriage before having children and it worked very well...my wife and I got to do everything people dream of after they have kids early...trips, parties, travel, concerts, etc. Sometimes it's handier doing things when you're young than waiting till they're grown and you lack the money and health to bother. Good luckWill a baby change our relationship?
oh god no a baby changes nothing.
no sir, EVERYTHING will be EXACTLY like it used to be.
because you never have to feed babies, take them to the doctor, change them, burp them, hold them, watch them, protect them, love them, talk to them, hover over them, change them again, clean up their poop, clean up their barf, feed them again, change them again, clean up their barf again, hold them while they cry for 3 hours straight from 2 AM to 5 AM, sing to them, worry about them, listen to them sleeping, change their poopy diapers again, haul all the poopy diapers out to the trash, go buy 7 more tons of clean diapers they can make poopy once you buy them, buy formula, breast pump, clean up the breast pump, warm up the milk you pump, clean all the bottles and nipples, hold them, burp them, clean up their barf again, snuggle with them, look at their tiny hands, clean up their poop again, dream about them, wonder about their future, hover some more, make and take with you everywhere you go a 17 pound baby survival bag, carry them, gently sing them to sleep, nap with them, try to get 3 minutes of rest while they sleep, feel your body change as your hormones re-set after having the kid, which includes a super low sex drive for a few months, clean up the baby's pee, then the poop, wash everything, dry everything, let the baby get spit up on all your work clothes, put the baby down, pick the baby up, take the baby everywhere you go, and feed and change it again.
NO THAT NEVER HAPPENS.Will a baby change our relationship?
It changes things.. sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. If you look at it in the right way, it can enhance your relationship because the baby is both of you put together, it will be something that came out of your love for one another.
But if you have a baby for the wrong reasons, it can be detrimental to your relationship. It is an extension of your love, not something you have to keep you together.Will a baby change our relationship?
I do not regret having my daughter...but my husband who insisted that having children was a deal breaker never has adjusted to being a parent.
The changes are both subtle and substantial.
If you truly can't commit to being a mother, perhaps you had better put it off for several years.Will a baby change our relationship?
Yes it will change things. But that means more responsibility.Will a baby change our relationship?
you both have to wanted a baby ,,,,,,baby do change you ,,, tied down 24 /7 cost money just everday, life never the same ,,, but it very rewarding ,,, no't have a baby , if your mind saying you don't want kids ,, it will probable end your marriage
Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Ladies! (Ok, even men) My engagement is coming up and I have soooo many questions abt marriage! So over the next few days, I'm gonna post 'em and would appreciate good answers.
Now...I'm 5'5, 95 lbs, size 0, very slender bones. My female cousins are all the exact same build. They've all had perfectly healthy, fat l'il chub-chubs and yet are still stick-thin, grogeous, and look more like the %26quot;big sis%26quot; than the %26quot;mom.%26quot; (In fact, they actually look better post-baby coz somehow their skin now glows in ways it didn't before.) They didn't even have to diet or work out- the pregnancy fat jst disappeared. Hopefully, this is a genetic trait and my body will bounce back the same way. If it doesn't, I don't really give a damn coz..who cares what anyone thinks? One's figure is a small price to pay for something as valuable as a baby. Now my question is...for those of you who have had babies- did it change your figure? For better or worse? Or did it not really make a diff? N if you did put on a LOT of weight even after the baby- did you manage to lose it? If so, how? DETAILS, PLS, all you moms and married woman!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Better. My body proportioned out more. Hips, fabulous. My breasts filled out even more and I love my post pregnancy nipples. Skin, also better. The most amazing thing was the feeling of empowerment that came with giving birth to a baby! It really helped with insecurity issues because it makes you realize that life is so much more than comparing yourself to others....
I'm 41, a mother of four and though I struggle with weight, I exercise regularly, I'm in great shape and feel comfortable in my own skin. I'm really too busy raising my kids to worry about what other women look like or to try to uphold some societal standard. I'm confident and happy and very sexual.
Life is about wayyyy more than how you look to others...Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
worse, lol,Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
i didnt gain a lot with either pregnancy... and it all went away on its own, the only thing is usually after ya have a baby you still look like 6 months pregnant but i never got real big and after i had my girls there was no bump just a LOT of saggy skin so it took a while to firm back up... so... yeah! thats about it, o and my hips got wider but thats good cuz before i could barely find pants that fit!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Honestly it made my body change for the better. I was like you well somewhat I was short 5'3 and 103 lbs before getting pregnant. After I had my baby I started excersing and getting better in shape. Now my body looks more toned then it did before.Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
It has changed my body for the worse. When I got pregnant with my first child, I was young and 5'0, about 93 lbs. Small frame and all, but very athletic. I gained about 50 lbs. with that pregnancy. After I delivered my beautiful boy (he was small, less than 6lbs), I did lose most of the weight, not all, but everyone said the few extra pounds looked good on me. I looked %26quot;healthy%26quot;, even had some curves! But my second pregnancy, I gained another 50 lbs or so and didn't have as much luck getting the weight off. 7 years later and I still cry every day. Instead of losing weight, I've managed to somehow stay at the same weight as when I delivered, about 155 lbs, which is horrible on my tiny 5'0 frame. I have dieted, exercised, took pills, you name it; it won't go away. I keep thinking there is a medical condition causing this, such as hypothyroidism or something. I get very depressed because I was always so thin and cute and now I'm just fat! My 9 year old hates that I'm fat. I look young in the face still and he says,%26quot;Mom, if you would lose weight and get skinny like you used to be, you'd still look like a teenager%26quot; It's sad hearing that come from your child, but it's the truth.Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Worse. Had two pregnancies about 14 months apart with kids less than two years apart. Although I did get some stretch marks, my b00bs increased almost 2 cup sizes and my hubs LOVES it. So I guess it had it's good aspects and bad. It took me about 2 years to learn how to feel good in my 'new' body and now I'm back to being sexy and confident again. My bff was like you...size 0 all her life. She's had two kids and a b00b job and she is still as skinny as ever no matter what she eats. Not fair...lol...Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
My ex wife became hog fat.Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
I gained and lost 50 lbs. for my pregnancy...very little stretch marks and no noticeable %26quot;side effects%26quot;. However, that said - the last 10 pounds need to be worked off...those were tough!
Anyone has the power to keep in shape after bearing children - if it's important to you - you can do it!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Worse. I had two babies. I gained alot of weight with both, 63 lbs with one, and 50 lbs with the other. I lost all of the weight but some things were never the same. I got some stretch marks, they're faded to white now but you can still see them. My hips are little wider. My stomach is flat, but I can't seem to tone up my lower abdomen.Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Look exactly the same and same weight 105 pounds, no stretch marks, no saggy skin. I didnt do anything I just gave birth and then I was back to normal the following month and had a flat stomach after that time. The only exercise I did was walk with the pushchairDid having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
I was always so skinny I looked like a crack head or a cancer victim(seriously) at 5'5 and 95lbs and after my first daughter.I had at 18 I gained some boobs and a butt, but within a year after having her I went back to being crack-head size (my ex-hubby liked me skinny)...BUT I am now 31 and things are slower to go back..I just had a 9 lbs baby few months ago and I put on the pounds during pregnancy I got up to 175lbs YIKES!! and now 6 months later.I am at 145lbs.I look great i have curves and a butt again..My current hubby LOVES IT!!!..It isn't coming off as fast as it did years ago..So I am hoping it stays around this time. Yes I was skinny when I got with him two years ago but he was always telling me to put on a few pounds...Well I did and he cant keep his hands off of everything!!!!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
My body changed a lot, my hips are wider - I lost all the weight but my proportions are all different. My breast changed increased a cup, I grew an inch taller, full shoe size (hard because i loved my shoes). My hair got much thicker and has more wave in it now, which I actually love. All of these changes slap me in the face, but no one else seems to notice at all!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Please reassure us that you are not considering reproduction.
Now...I'm 5'5, 95 lbs, size 0, very slender bones. My female cousins are all the exact same build. They've all had perfectly healthy, fat l'il chub-chubs and yet are still stick-thin, grogeous, and look more like the %26quot;big sis%26quot; than the %26quot;mom.%26quot; (In fact, they actually look better post-baby coz somehow their skin now glows in ways it didn't before.) They didn't even have to diet or work out- the pregnancy fat jst disappeared. Hopefully, this is a genetic trait and my body will bounce back the same way. If it doesn't, I don't really give a damn coz..who cares what anyone thinks? One's figure is a small price to pay for something as valuable as a baby. Now my question is...for those of you who have had babies- did it change your figure? For better or worse? Or did it not really make a diff? N if you did put on a LOT of weight even after the baby- did you manage to lose it? If so, how? DETAILS, PLS, all you moms and married woman!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Better. My body proportioned out more. Hips, fabulous. My breasts filled out even more and I love my post pregnancy nipples. Skin, also better. The most amazing thing was the feeling of empowerment that came with giving birth to a baby! It really helped with insecurity issues because it makes you realize that life is so much more than comparing yourself to others....
I'm 41, a mother of four and though I struggle with weight, I exercise regularly, I'm in great shape and feel comfortable in my own skin. I'm really too busy raising my kids to worry about what other women look like or to try to uphold some societal standard. I'm confident and happy and very sexual.
Life is about wayyyy more than how you look to others...Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
worse, lol,Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
i didnt gain a lot with either pregnancy... and it all went away on its own, the only thing is usually after ya have a baby you still look like 6 months pregnant but i never got real big and after i had my girls there was no bump just a LOT of saggy skin so it took a while to firm back up... so... yeah! thats about it, o and my hips got wider but thats good cuz before i could barely find pants that fit!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Honestly it made my body change for the better. I was like you well somewhat I was short 5'3 and 103 lbs before getting pregnant. After I had my baby I started excersing and getting better in shape. Now my body looks more toned then it did before.Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
It has changed my body for the worse. When I got pregnant with my first child, I was young and 5'0, about 93 lbs. Small frame and all, but very athletic. I gained about 50 lbs. with that pregnancy. After I delivered my beautiful boy (he was small, less than 6lbs), I did lose most of the weight, not all, but everyone said the few extra pounds looked good on me. I looked %26quot;healthy%26quot;, even had some curves! But my second pregnancy, I gained another 50 lbs or so and didn't have as much luck getting the weight off. 7 years later and I still cry every day. Instead of losing weight, I've managed to somehow stay at the same weight as when I delivered, about 155 lbs, which is horrible on my tiny 5'0 frame. I have dieted, exercised, took pills, you name it; it won't go away. I keep thinking there is a medical condition causing this, such as hypothyroidism or something. I get very depressed because I was always so thin and cute and now I'm just fat! My 9 year old hates that I'm fat. I look young in the face still and he says,%26quot;Mom, if you would lose weight and get skinny like you used to be, you'd still look like a teenager%26quot; It's sad hearing that come from your child, but it's the truth.Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Worse. Had two pregnancies about 14 months apart with kids less than two years apart. Although I did get some stretch marks, my b00bs increased almost 2 cup sizes and my hubs LOVES it. So I guess it had it's good aspects and bad. It took me about 2 years to learn how to feel good in my 'new' body and now I'm back to being sexy and confident again. My bff was like you...size 0 all her life. She's had two kids and a b00b job and she is still as skinny as ever no matter what she eats. Not fair...lol...Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
My ex wife became hog fat.Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
I gained and lost 50 lbs. for my pregnancy...very little stretch marks and no noticeable %26quot;side effects%26quot;. However, that said - the last 10 pounds need to be worked off...those were tough!
Anyone has the power to keep in shape after bearing children - if it's important to you - you can do it!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Worse. I had two babies. I gained alot of weight with both, 63 lbs with one, and 50 lbs with the other. I lost all of the weight but some things were never the same. I got some stretch marks, they're faded to white now but you can still see them. My hips are little wider. My stomach is flat, but I can't seem to tone up my lower abdomen.Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Look exactly the same and same weight 105 pounds, no stretch marks, no saggy skin. I didnt do anything I just gave birth and then I was back to normal the following month and had a flat stomach after that time. The only exercise I did was walk with the pushchairDid having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
I was always so skinny I looked like a crack head or a cancer victim(seriously) at 5'5 and 95lbs and after my first daughter.I had at 18 I gained some boobs and a butt, but within a year after having her I went back to being crack-head size (my ex-hubby liked me skinny)...BUT I am now 31 and things are slower to go back..I just had a 9 lbs baby few months ago and I put on the pounds during pregnancy I got up to 175lbs YIKES!! and now 6 months later.I am at 145lbs.I look great i have curves and a butt again..My current hubby LOVES IT!!!..It isn't coming off as fast as it did years ago..So I am hoping it stays around this time. Yes I was skinny when I got with him two years ago but he was always telling me to put on a few pounds...Well I did and he cant keep his hands off of everything!!!!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
My body changed a lot, my hips are wider - I lost all the weight but my proportions are all different. My breast changed increased a cup, I grew an inch taller, full shoe size (hard because i loved my shoes). My hair got much thicker and has more wave in it now, which I actually love. All of these changes slap me in the face, but no one else seems to notice at all!Did having a baby change ur body for better or worse?
Please reassure us that you are not considering reproduction.
How did your baby change your life?
I mean besides the obvious....hahaha
Like how did your baby turn you life for the better.
Me?
I loved to party and drink. When I found out I was pregnant, I started worrying about how long I had been drinking while pregnant, and I haven't had even a glass of wine since I found out.
And I've always been skeptical about people who believe in God (no harsh words please) but since I'vee had Danielle, I've realized she really is a blessing from heaven, and I know that sounds lame.
I even almost got an abortion, but then I thought about how she had already changed my life, and how much she could change my life more.
How did your baby change your life?How did your baby change your life?
When I found out I was pregnant with my son I quit smoking and didn't party as much. I stopped drinking and took care of myself everything around me. When I had him I grew up even more and real life settled in. My son is still my everything and I wouldn't of changed it for anything. When my son passed away my life was destroyed. I felt horrible and that everything I had done was for nothing. Then I remembered what my son had done for me and I regained myself and realized that maybe this was another test from God. I don't act the way I did before I was pregnant. I'm glad my son grew his wings and is now watching over me and his daddy. I love my little angel.
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Thanks MS, I have a lot of support so that helps too.How did your baby change your life?
I was like you before i had my son too, i loved to party every weekend and then it all stopped. God i envied my friends all the times they got to go out and i had to sit in because i was pregnant, now they envy me because i have such a gorgeous son and he is better than the ''party life'' i had before. I use to think im never going to get to go out again, i havent been out much since he was born 5 months ago and i couldnt care less! He has made my life complete, i love being a mother its really rewarding (how cleche that must sound lol) but seeing him develope and grow is just the best feeling.How did your baby change your life?
She has given me a focus, a drive in life and a reason for making our home, our lives and our healths are all at their peak. I strive for the best, just for her and want her to have the best i can possibly give her.
Before i had her, i was selfish, argumentative and lazy - now I am completely the opposite. She is the best thing I could have possibly ever done and no amount of money earnt, brilliant jobs and amazing holidays could ever replace her or even amount to how precious she is.How did your baby change your life?
This is a good question. It made me think.
I wanted an abortion once I found out I was pregnant. And the sad thing was- he was a planned baby. I had agreed to it, but it wasn't what I truly wanted so I was mad when I found out.
Motherhood has been super tough on me. The baby's dad (who wanted the baby) hasn't been as helpful as I would like and I was fiercely independent before the baby came...now I NEVER get a moment to myself it seems. And honestly, earlier in the week I was considering adopting him out. I just miss my free time.
BUT, he's changed my life in good ways too. Like, I've grown up a lot. Its not just about me anymore, I have the little man to think about.
He's given me structure. Before I could (and did) go do whatever I wanted, when I wanted, but now I'm learning to plan outings between feedings/diapers/naps. I'm also learning how to ask my family for help.
I've gotten more cleanly when it comes to the house.
I've had to make laundry a priority...when I was only buying clothes for me I would often buy new clothes rather than doing laundry. But, with a baby it doesn't make sense to do that. He grows too fast as it is, he doesn't need 100 outifts in one size (though he has a ton of stuff anyway).
I'm still not a believer in god (sorry, not trying to offend, but its true). To me, babies are not miracles or gifts from god or anything. Babies are sperm meets egg. Period. Its science, that's all.
Before he was born I thought all babies looked the same. Now though, they don't look the same at all. And I feel bad even thinking that my baby is more attractive than some, but some babies just aren't cute (we met one my sons age at the dr office a few days ago who was breathing like darth vader and really had a face only a mother could love).
I think he and I are both learning a lot from each other. He's making me grow up, and I'm hoping he doesn't grow up too fast.lion tiger leopard howtogetevenwithyourex
Like how did your baby turn you life for the better.
Me?
I loved to party and drink. When I found out I was pregnant, I started worrying about how long I had been drinking while pregnant, and I haven't had even a glass of wine since I found out.
And I've always been skeptical about people who believe in God (no harsh words please) but since I'vee had Danielle, I've realized she really is a blessing from heaven, and I know that sounds lame.
I even almost got an abortion, but then I thought about how she had already changed my life, and how much she could change my life more.
How did your baby change your life?How did your baby change your life?
When I found out I was pregnant with my son I quit smoking and didn't party as much. I stopped drinking and took care of myself everything around me. When I had him I grew up even more and real life settled in. My son is still my everything and I wouldn't of changed it for anything. When my son passed away my life was destroyed. I felt horrible and that everything I had done was for nothing. Then I remembered what my son had done for me and I regained myself and realized that maybe this was another test from God. I don't act the way I did before I was pregnant. I'm glad my son grew his wings and is now watching over me and his daddy. I love my little angel.
______________________
Thanks MS, I have a lot of support so that helps too.How did your baby change your life?
I was like you before i had my son too, i loved to party every weekend and then it all stopped. God i envied my friends all the times they got to go out and i had to sit in because i was pregnant, now they envy me because i have such a gorgeous son and he is better than the ''party life'' i had before. I use to think im never going to get to go out again, i havent been out much since he was born 5 months ago and i couldnt care less! He has made my life complete, i love being a mother its really rewarding (how cleche that must sound lol) but seeing him develope and grow is just the best feeling.How did your baby change your life?
She has given me a focus, a drive in life and a reason for making our home, our lives and our healths are all at their peak. I strive for the best, just for her and want her to have the best i can possibly give her.
Before i had her, i was selfish, argumentative and lazy - now I am completely the opposite. She is the best thing I could have possibly ever done and no amount of money earnt, brilliant jobs and amazing holidays could ever replace her or even amount to how precious she is.How did your baby change your life?
This is a good question. It made me think.
I wanted an abortion once I found out I was pregnant. And the sad thing was- he was a planned baby. I had agreed to it, but it wasn't what I truly wanted so I was mad when I found out.
Motherhood has been super tough on me. The baby's dad (who wanted the baby) hasn't been as helpful as I would like and I was fiercely independent before the baby came...now I NEVER get a moment to myself it seems. And honestly, earlier in the week I was considering adopting him out. I just miss my free time.
BUT, he's changed my life in good ways too. Like, I've grown up a lot. Its not just about me anymore, I have the little man to think about.
He's given me structure. Before I could (and did) go do whatever I wanted, when I wanted, but now I'm learning to plan outings between feedings/diapers/naps. I'm also learning how to ask my family for help.
I've gotten more cleanly when it comes to the house.
I've had to make laundry a priority...when I was only buying clothes for me I would often buy new clothes rather than doing laundry. But, with a baby it doesn't make sense to do that. He grows too fast as it is, he doesn't need 100 outifts in one size (though he has a ton of stuff anyway).
I'm still not a believer in god (sorry, not trying to offend, but its true). To me, babies are not miracles or gifts from god or anything. Babies are sperm meets egg. Period. Its science, that's all.
Before he was born I thought all babies looked the same. Now though, they don't look the same at all. And I feel bad even thinking that my baby is more attractive than some, but some babies just aren't cute (we met one my sons age at the dr office a few days ago who was breathing like darth vader and really had a face only a mother could love).
I think he and I are both learning a lot from each other. He's making me grow up, and I'm hoping he doesn't grow up too fast.
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