Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?

I just had my daughter 2 weeks ago. I have a horrible headache that has not gone away for a week.

my house is a mess because my head hurts so bad to move i just sit on the couch all day to keep my head from hurting worse.

there is coloring books and colors all over the coffee table with baby blankets

there are clothes all over the loveseat from doing laundry that need to be folded

ther are a few dirt dishes in the sink the counter has junk all over it. there are hangers all over the floor that the kids threw around that were on the loveseat with the clothes. there are baby blanktes and burp cloths pacifiers all over my living room and dining room.



I am going to court in 2 weeks to try and get custody of my two older kids ages 5 and 6. ( their dad will not get a job and keeps getting his elec cut off getting a eviction notice for not paying rent cant pay phone bill gets cable and home phone cut off. gets car in accident but has no car insurance to fix it. so i know that financially we are in a better situation )



well i have had them for the last month for the summer and their dad came and picked them up for their step brothers birthday party. well every time he has came to pick them up in the last couple months my house was spotless sinc ehe picks them up in the evening but today he picked them up at 8am



well first i am asleep still from getting home at 12 from the fireworks lastnight that were down town had to get the kids a bath then get them in bed then give baby a bath feed baby change baby so i was really tired not to mention all the overnight feedings.



so he knocked on the door i didnt know he was here cause i was asleep. my kids opened the door when they know they are not supposed to open the door for anyone



so my daughter comes in the room waking me up saying daddy is here i have no idea how long he has been standing in my doorway and my kids have not eaten breakfast. and they are dressed since i remember my daughter comming up to me earlier and i told her to get dressed for daddy pauls. but i dont know what time that was or if he was possibly here at that time. or if he had just got here when she woke me up the last time.



i am so scared that he is going to say i am a bad parent because i let my kids answer the door, didnt feed them, i was asleep while they were awake watching cartoons. and it was 8 am so he will say that i cant even wake up at 8 howwill i wake up at 6 to get them to school every day



should i worry about this. i am so tired my baby wakes up ever 2 hours and i have to be the one to wake up every time she wakes up since my husband works over night.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
you could have done a few chores intead of coming on here and typing so muchShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
I don't think you are a bad parent. And I don't think anyone else could say so as well. Having an infant is TOUGH. So as long as the children are feed, happy and reasonably clean then it doesn't matter if your house is in perfect shape or not.Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
go to the docs about the headache hunny he can give you advice to fix it and take maby just 1 hour to clean up a little and if you dont get much done oh well it dnt matterShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
No,you don't have to be worried.Lots of new parent's houses are a mess.It will get cleaned sooner or later :)

Its hard to juggle a newborn %26amp; Have time to clean.



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Get lost Seth!!

I really wish I could thumb you down right now!Should i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
why cant husband do the house chores too? come on youre a teamShould i feel bad? my house is a mess with a new baby?
One thing I can suggest, that is to hire a couple of kids from the neighborhood to come in and help with the housework. There are hundreds of kids between 12 and 16 looking for something to do to make money over the summer, have them come in and do the %26quot;small stuff%26quot; for you.