Alex was born at just under 8 pounds and was always a chubby little baby. He weighed 14 pounds at his 2 month check up and stayed that way until he turned about 8 months old. Now I have a %26quot;small%26quot; toddler when I used to have a %26quot;big%26quot; baby.
Here's my chunky little 3 month old.
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And now he's a short, kinda skinny 18 month old.
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Did any one else's baby make a similar change? How about the opposite from being a %26quot;small%26quot; baby to a %26quot;big%26quot; baby/toddler?Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
Yup, at birth my guy was 8 lb 11 oz and 21 inches and at his 1 year check up he was a whopping 19 lb 12 oz and 31 inches. It's horrible to fit this kid into clothing appropriately! Either his pants are too short or they are falling off because he has no middle. I suppose he's gonna be just like his daddy (6'3%26quot; with a 36%26quot; inseam!!).Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
He is so cute! Had to get that in :)
My daughter weighed just under 8 lbs at birth as well, and now at 14 months she weighs about 22 lbs. I know what you mean though, my nephew used to be this big porker baby but now at 23 months he has grown taller and now doesnt look as big. Its strange isnt it :)Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
My daughter was always right around the 50 percentile for weight until about 6 months when she jumped to the 75th. at her following check-up, 9 months, she was back into the 50th and at 18 months still is. But with her height, she was always between 50-75 for percentile, and now she's a shorty like her mom, under 50th...Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
My son was in the 75th to 90th percentile for weight until he was about 9 months old. Since then, he has dropped to about the 10th-20th percentile in weight. The weight started tapering off when he became mobile (walking and running) and when he stopped getting most of his nutrition from breast milk and increased his solids. The men in my family have always eben big and my husband and his family are all quite thin. My pediatrician said it was likely a combination of genetic taking over and the increased activity.Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
no. my baby has ALWAYs been big. he was 10 lbs 3 oz at birth and 22 inches long. now he'll be 2 in January and he's 43 lbs and hes 3'4%26quot; tall. he was always the 97th percentile.
my little girl is average size so far. she's 7 monthsDid your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
what a little sweetie. Maybe hes just very active now. Hee sure looks like he would be a bundle of energy. I love his big cheeky smile in the treeDid your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
Nope.....Emma was born in the 75% height and weight. She is now 75% weight and 97% height.Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
Yes all 3 of my children were chubby babies. My Jacob is 4 years old and only 34 pounds now, my Alexander was above the 95% when he was a baby, now hes a skinny active 2 year old, and my daughter was a chunky little thing and she is now 14 months old and just a bit over 21 pounds (she was over 20 pounds at 10 months.) Its completely normal. They are more stationary as infants and the more they grow and move around the more they thin out. Plus they tend to hit that %26quot;picky eater%26quot; stage and only want one or two things...Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
I don't have kids yet. (ten more years to go!!) But, I looked at your pictures, and your son is the cutest thing!! I love his smile in the second picture. He looks so happy.
Anyway, sorry I couldn't give you an answer, but good luck! :)Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
Gracious, yes. But as long as all openings are working, and s/he is advancing, and the long bones are growing, and the pedi isn't worried, don't you worry either. A lot of their growth depends on the inherited height the child will attain. The children who will be taller can usually be %26quot;spotted%26quot; by their growth in the first 3-6 months; the pediatrician will usually comment on that factor. So, if a baby is heavier as a newborn-3 months of age, and bottle-fed, they will appear larger, but are not always heavier. Breast-fed babies are more of a solid weight, less 'flab' if you will; in fact, after a feed, they actually feel a lot heavier.
There are many variables but as long as the baby child is healthy, that's all that matters. My largest newborn, is now the smallest among her siblings; the smallest newborn, is the largest as an adult. Go figure. ;-))
Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
No, Cade was 6 lbs 7oz at birth. Now he is 19lbs at 12 months. He is so skinny, but eats like a pig!
Alex is such a cutie!Did your baby change from %26quot;big%26quot; to %26quot;small%26quot; or vise versa?
aw your son is so adorable. i just wanted to say that your question made me wonder. my son started out at 8 lbs 7.5 oz and 21 inches long. then he grew at an incredible rate. he was close to your son, he weighed 15 pounds at his 2 month check up. he is now 8 months and weighs 22 pounds and is 30 inches tall. i always hear what a big baby he is. i wonder if he will slow down and end up being a small toddler?
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Having a baby change for the better or worse?
It has been a little over a year now and I have had the urge to start a family. I've always known I wanted to have children (and be a mom full time), but now it's really all I can think about. I would really love to have children right now, but have a few issues:
My soon-be-hubby gets moody a lot. Every once in a while when I need help with something or ask him (politely) to turn the tv down when I'm trying to go to sleep (his latest answer is %26quot;anything else I can do for you%26quot; in a snotty tone), he gives me a horrible attitude. I'm not sure what it's about...When I ask him what his problem is, he says, %26quot;sorry, I'm pms-ing%26quot;.
I'm afraid that if we have a baby and I'm going to need his help, he's going to give me these 12 year old girl answers with attitude. I deal with it now but sometimes end up snapping back at him because after a while, those answers get quite annoying. He also has these little fits of anger.
For instance, he'd be playing poker on his cell phone for an hour and he'd start getting very upset would keep saying that the game is %26quot;bullsh*t%26quot; and whoever made the game is a %26quot;dumba**%26quot;...blah, blah, blah. Well, it starts getting annoying after a while so I'd tell him that if he's going to get so p*ssed at the game, if he'd please turn it off. (It upsets me when other people get that angry) So he'd go on and on for a while and then get so mad he throws the cell phone at the dresser...shattering it into pieces. After that he's fine and would laugh about it and say how stupid it was that he did that.
A lot of the time we are happy and content, but the other portion is him acting immature and angry. I can deal with this right now for there are so many other great things about him and I love him so much. I can't wait to marry him and have him be the father of my children...but I have been thinking about all the aspects of what a baby could do to change our life and the only thing I am worried about is if we have a baby, would his temper break us apart?
The reason I only see having a baby change things and not marriage is because it is bringing another life into the mix and I would need to protect them. I know what I can handle but I don't want an innocent child to be around attitude and anger issues. Plus, with the stress of pregnancy and raising a child...I don't know if I could %26quot;handle%26quot; his quarks very well. (mood swings and all) I don't want to go for it and have his anger/snotty remarks bring me over the edge and give up.
Have you gone through this? Any advice?Having a baby change for the better or worse?
since you are asking about it, then you are not sure about it.. having kids is a major decision - it doesn't sound like much at first but when you add up all the costs (financial and emotional), it becomes a very expensive proposition.. you sound like a mature and well-balanced adult while your bf is a bit off - and you have to watch out for those anger fits because they tend to grow with the time and instead of dresser it could be you.. i am not exhaggerating and it's a good idea to test your dilemma in action.. no, no need to get married or have a child.. instead, get a dog - buy a puppy or adopt from shelter.. the dog will have the same needs as a small child does - so you can see first hand how attentive he is to the dog (walking it, feeding it, giving it a bath, carrying for it when you feel like laying down).. you will have a better picture of what he might be later on without going into the extremes.. let's face it, once you have a child, it's important to be in a stable relationship for the well-being of the child.. you do not sound like you want to be a single mom, so make sure that your bf is indeed a marriage material and if not, you are smart enough to walk away and start looking for someone who will want to have a future with you.. the worst in this scenario is an upset animal - the alternative is a child torn between fighting parents..Having a baby change for the better or worse?
me and my husband have decided not to have any children until we are mature enough and until we get to know eachother a little better....we're still newly weds..and even after dating for two years before we got married..we are still learning about eachother..and trying to help eachother to be better ppl..we do have our fights and our spurts of immaturity..but we work through it.......we know we want to wait beucase babysitting four boys together has showed us that we really arnt ready(granted that one of the boys we babysit has major anger issues spawning from a bad begining in his early years.)........i would talk to your fiance about his anger issue and about the future and everything when he is in a good mood...and let him speak his mind too.........best of luck..
My soon-be-hubby gets moody a lot. Every once in a while when I need help with something or ask him (politely) to turn the tv down when I'm trying to go to sleep (his latest answer is %26quot;anything else I can do for you%26quot; in a snotty tone), he gives me a horrible attitude. I'm not sure what it's about...When I ask him what his problem is, he says, %26quot;sorry, I'm pms-ing%26quot;.
I'm afraid that if we have a baby and I'm going to need his help, he's going to give me these 12 year old girl answers with attitude. I deal with it now but sometimes end up snapping back at him because after a while, those answers get quite annoying. He also has these little fits of anger.
For instance, he'd be playing poker on his cell phone for an hour and he'd start getting very upset would keep saying that the game is %26quot;bullsh*t%26quot; and whoever made the game is a %26quot;dumba**%26quot;...blah, blah, blah. Well, it starts getting annoying after a while so I'd tell him that if he's going to get so p*ssed at the game, if he'd please turn it off. (It upsets me when other people get that angry) So he'd go on and on for a while and then get so mad he throws the cell phone at the dresser...shattering it into pieces. After that he's fine and would laugh about it and say how stupid it was that he did that.
A lot of the time we are happy and content, but the other portion is him acting immature and angry. I can deal with this right now for there are so many other great things about him and I love him so much. I can't wait to marry him and have him be the father of my children...but I have been thinking about all the aspects of what a baby could do to change our life and the only thing I am worried about is if we have a baby, would his temper break us apart?
The reason I only see having a baby change things and not marriage is because it is bringing another life into the mix and I would need to protect them. I know what I can handle but I don't want an innocent child to be around attitude and anger issues. Plus, with the stress of pregnancy and raising a child...I don't know if I could %26quot;handle%26quot; his quarks very well. (mood swings and all) I don't want to go for it and have his anger/snotty remarks bring me over the edge and give up.
Have you gone through this? Any advice?Having a baby change for the better or worse?
since you are asking about it, then you are not sure about it.. having kids is a major decision - it doesn't sound like much at first but when you add up all the costs (financial and emotional), it becomes a very expensive proposition.. you sound like a mature and well-balanced adult while your bf is a bit off - and you have to watch out for those anger fits because they tend to grow with the time and instead of dresser it could be you.. i am not exhaggerating and it's a good idea to test your dilemma in action.. no, no need to get married or have a child.. instead, get a dog - buy a puppy or adopt from shelter.. the dog will have the same needs as a small child does - so you can see first hand how attentive he is to the dog (walking it, feeding it, giving it a bath, carrying for it when you feel like laying down).. you will have a better picture of what he might be later on without going into the extremes.. let's face it, once you have a child, it's important to be in a stable relationship for the well-being of the child.. you do not sound like you want to be a single mom, so make sure that your bf is indeed a marriage material and if not, you are smart enough to walk away and start looking for someone who will want to have a future with you.. the worst in this scenario is an upset animal - the alternative is a child torn between fighting parents..Having a baby change for the better or worse?
me and my husband have decided not to have any children until we are mature enough and until we get to know eachother a little better....we're still newly weds..and even after dating for two years before we got married..we are still learning about eachother..and trying to help eachother to be better ppl..we do have our fights and our spurts of immaturity..but we work through it.......we know we want to wait beucase babysitting four boys together has showed us that we really arnt ready(granted that one of the boys we babysit has major anger issues spawning from a bad begining in his early years.)........i would talk to your fiance about his anger issue and about the future and everything when he is in a good mood...and let him speak his mind too.........best of luck..
Baby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
I am 35 weeks pregnant tomorrow
32 weeks - scan showed baby was breech
34 weeks- midwife was unsure due to position but still seemed breech.
now i have to see the midwife at 36 weeks (next week) and if the baby is breech then she is going to send me to the hospital to try and move the baby into the right position for birth by the time i get to 37 weeks, the midwife mentioned that they do it in hospital incase it starts labour off.
i've spent all week looking around and speaking to people about moving the baby (not sure what it's called) and i didnt realise that there's small risks with the baby's heartrate and labour starting aswell. Now im not so sure, i dont know whether it is a choice thing or whether it has to be done. I have already spoken to my midwife about what happens if the baby stays breech and she has said a cesarean at 39 weeks, which i am happy enough to go along with. i just dont know about trying to change baby's position, would it be stupid to say i dont want it, i have a strong belief that everything happens for a reason. I miscarried 5 months before i fell pregnant this time and it has made me see that everything had a purpose, i think if my baby is breech now then for some reason she is meant to be born by cesarean, does that sound stupid? i dont want to look like im causing a fuss over a small thing, or whether i can say i dont want it at all. not sure how it works.
I have to decide by a week tomorrow cos thats when im seeing the midwife and if baby is still breech then she'll want to book the appointment to move her whilst i am there.
thanks in advance xBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
i know exactly what you mean. my baby is breech and i have already told my dr that i do not want her trying to turn the baby because i do not want it to put me in labor early. if he has to come out via c section that is fine, as long as he is healthy is all that really matters. my sister was in the hospital for 12 hours in labor and she was 10cm dialated when her baby turned at the last second and had to have a c section, so they really can turn at any minute. children are unpredictable. good luckBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
your baby can still turn.
i would do with what you feel most comfortable doing.
ive heard getting your baby moved can be rather uncomfortable which would personally put me off but its much safer for your baby to be born naturally with a c-section being major surgery.
all the do, so ive heard.. is move your baby in position using there hands and sometimes use a ultrasound machine to double check the baby is finally in the right position.Baby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
I think you should write out a list of all the concerns you have so you can address each one with the midwife.
You need to take into consideration the complications can arise from a breech birth. You need to consider what is going to be best for your baby.Baby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
I was speaking to a lady in my work about this the other day and she said that it was a very painful procedure and she was left with bruises on her stomach. I don't want to scare you hunni but she said that she would never do it again. The procedure did in fact work for her but her daughter just turned straight back round again within a week.
It is completely your choice so don't feel pushed into anything. Speak at length with your midwife about the risks involved and the success rate. You can say that you don't want the procedure but it's best to speak with her and let her know your concerns.
Good luck xxxxxBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
i am 25 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and the baby was breech from 16 weeks until yesterday she/he turned while i was lying on the hospital bed waiting to be scanned they told me that they will keep an eye cause the baby can go back to being breech at anytime and can even turn right at the last min even when you are in birth lol i said to the doctor what would happen if the baby was breech when i get closer to my due date and he said they would do a c-section as they don't really agree in turning the babies as it can put you into labour and break your waters i don't like the thoughts off having a c-section or getting my baby turned lol but whatever's best for the baby i'll be happyBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
There are more risks associated with a c section than there are with a ECV. A c section is not the easy way out by any means. I was threatened with both when my baby was breech, but she turned last minute and was birthed vaginally soon after.
If 'everything had a purpose' then maybe your baby wasn't meant to be born by c section, perhaps you are meant to deliver vaginally, despite being breech? You can't reject one medical procedure using that arguement while still being accepting of another.howtobefriendswithagirl rodents
32 weeks - scan showed baby was breech
34 weeks- midwife was unsure due to position but still seemed breech.
now i have to see the midwife at 36 weeks (next week) and if the baby is breech then she is going to send me to the hospital to try and move the baby into the right position for birth by the time i get to 37 weeks, the midwife mentioned that they do it in hospital incase it starts labour off.
i've spent all week looking around and speaking to people about moving the baby (not sure what it's called) and i didnt realise that there's small risks with the baby's heartrate and labour starting aswell. Now im not so sure, i dont know whether it is a choice thing or whether it has to be done. I have already spoken to my midwife about what happens if the baby stays breech and she has said a cesarean at 39 weeks, which i am happy enough to go along with. i just dont know about trying to change baby's position, would it be stupid to say i dont want it, i have a strong belief that everything happens for a reason. I miscarried 5 months before i fell pregnant this time and it has made me see that everything had a purpose, i think if my baby is breech now then for some reason she is meant to be born by cesarean, does that sound stupid? i dont want to look like im causing a fuss over a small thing, or whether i can say i dont want it at all. not sure how it works.
I have to decide by a week tomorrow cos thats when im seeing the midwife and if baby is still breech then she'll want to book the appointment to move her whilst i am there.
thanks in advance xBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
i know exactly what you mean. my baby is breech and i have already told my dr that i do not want her trying to turn the baby because i do not want it to put me in labor early. if he has to come out via c section that is fine, as long as he is healthy is all that really matters. my sister was in the hospital for 12 hours in labor and she was 10cm dialated when her baby turned at the last second and had to have a c section, so they really can turn at any minute. children are unpredictable. good luckBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
your baby can still turn.
i would do with what you feel most comfortable doing.
ive heard getting your baby moved can be rather uncomfortable which would personally put me off but its much safer for your baby to be born naturally with a c-section being major surgery.
all the do, so ive heard.. is move your baby in position using there hands and sometimes use a ultrasound machine to double check the baby is finally in the right position.Baby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
I think you should write out a list of all the concerns you have so you can address each one with the midwife.
You need to take into consideration the complications can arise from a breech birth. You need to consider what is going to be best for your baby.Baby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
I was speaking to a lady in my work about this the other day and she said that it was a very painful procedure and she was left with bruises on her stomach. I don't want to scare you hunni but she said that she would never do it again. The procedure did in fact work for her but her daughter just turned straight back round again within a week.
It is completely your choice so don't feel pushed into anything. Speak at length with your midwife about the risks involved and the success rate. You can say that you don't want the procedure but it's best to speak with her and let her know your concerns.
Good luck xxxxxBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
i am 25 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and the baby was breech from 16 weeks until yesterday she/he turned while i was lying on the hospital bed waiting to be scanned they told me that they will keep an eye cause the baby can go back to being breech at anytime and can even turn right at the last min even when you are in birth lol i said to the doctor what would happen if the baby was breech when i get closer to my due date and he said they would do a c-section as they don't really agree in turning the babies as it can put you into labour and break your waters i don't like the thoughts off having a c-section or getting my baby turned lol but whatever's best for the baby i'll be happyBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
There are more risks associated with a c section than there are with a ECV. A c section is not the easy way out by any means. I was threatened with both when my baby was breech, but she turned last minute and was birthed vaginally soon after.
If 'everything had a purpose' then maybe your baby wasn't meant to be born by c section, perhaps you are meant to deliver vaginally, despite being breech? You can't reject one medical procedure using that arguement while still being accepting of another.
I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
For the first three weeks our baby was well behaved in that she wasn%26039;t fussy when fed, diapered, loved, and held now and then. But then she changed.
Now she isn%26039;t content unless she is being held by mommy. And usually she wants mommy%26039;s nipple even though she isn%26039;t really drinking. Now, about the only time she is content (and cute) is either when she%26039;s sleeping or when she%26039;s sucking. If she%26039;s doing neither, she usually fusses and cries.
During this transformation, she also decided that daddy wasn%26039;t who she wanted to be held by. If I hold her, she reacts the same as if nobody is holding her. She cries. She must have mommy holding her.
I strongly feel that my wife%26039;s behavior unwittingly led to this change. Baby is with mommy 24/7. If baby cries, mommy immediately picks her up. If she continues to cry, mommy immediately gives her her nipple. My wife is great mother... perhaps too great. Because of how quickly she accommodates our baby, our baby cries a total of perhaps only one minute per day.
I believe that the problem is that our baby has become accustomed to being held every waking moment by her mother. And if she doesn%26039;t get what she%26039;s now accustomed to, she cries.
I decided to take action. When I hold our baby and she fusses and cries because I%26039;m not mommy, I go to mommy so that she can see that mommy is there. But I won%26039;t give her to mommy right away. I%26039;ll let her cry for up to five minutes. If she continues crying, I%26039;ll give her to mommy. But that rarely happens. What usually happens is that baby totally quits crying and fussing after three or four minutes. After that she accepts me and she will be like she was before. Already a couple of times she%26039;s fallen asleep in my arms, at which time I put her bassinet. The most notable thing is that, upon waking up, she is like she was before! No fussing or crying. She lies there for several minutes looking around and studying things. To me this proves that, by letting her cry a little, she can readjust to a new routine. Specifically, she can adjust to the way she was before when she didn%26039;t need to be held all the time, and specifically by only her mother.
My wife doesn%26039;t like me to do this because she says that our baby sucks in air when she cries and that it makes her spit up milk at night. And since she%26039;s the one taking care of the baby at night, I have no right to let the baby cry.
I say, as the father, I have the right to keep my baby%26039;s trust, particularly considering I will be the baby%26039;s primary caretaker in a couple months when my wife goes back to work. (I work at home.) I%26039;ve read horror stories of babies who cry for hours at a daycare center, and I have a feeling that is the direction our baby has been going.
I know that some of you mothers will say that a month-old baby is too young to learn. But it%26039;s clear to me that they ARE capable of learning who takes care of them most the time. And they can learn to be dependent upon that person even when they don%26039;t need to be. I think healthy babies should be able to handle some alone time.
Any thoughts or comments? (Actually I%26039;d like to know how to convince my wife, if possible, to try my method. Or to hear of others%26039; similar ordeals and how they handled them.)I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Oh they can learn all right, from early on babies become accustomed to being fussed over when they cry, and in turn do it when they%26039;re not receiving enough attention. My son was getting the same way, and was too used to us holding him until he fell asleep he wouldn%26039;t go in his chair or crib, he would just cry. As hard as it is to hear him cry you can tell when there%26039;s something wrong and when he%26039;s just crying for attention (more like whimpering). We%26039;ve started putting him down as soon as he%26039;s had his bottle and not having extra cuddles with him, so he learns he needs to settle on his own, which I think has been harder for me than for him lol
We%26039;ve had to sort this as once my partner goes back to work in May I will be alone with him, and also have a house to clean etc so won%26039;t be able to pick him up everytime he cries (which we can do now as there%26039;s 2 of us), plus it%26039;s not healthy for a baby to be spoilt and in control.
I don%26039;t understand about the crying making her spit up at night, I%26039;ve never heard of crying doing this, my son cries every day (for no longer than a few minutes at a time) and it%26039;s never caused him to spit up any more or less than he usually does. all babies will spit up a little, it%26039;s their way of getting rid of excess food when they eat more than they need! If your daughter is still feeding well I think letting her cry and learn is the best thing for her, she needs to be able to respond to you ESPECIALLY if you%26039;re going to be looking after her!
You need to get your wife to understand that your baby needs to cry, it%26039;s not causing her any harm, and that she also needs to be able to close to you without your wife taking over when she crys.
Good Luck :o)I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Maybe she could pump her milk so that you could feed her also, then she would see you both as a source of comfortI think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
I think that your method is TERRIBLE!! Babies are supposed to be held and loved. Seems to me that you are jealous of your wife. You aren%26039;t supposed to teach your baby not to cry...they are babies, that%26039;s how they communicate! If your baby wants mommy...give her mommy. Don%26039;t force yourself upon the baby...it will backfire and the baby will grow up never wanting to be with you. Your wife carried the baby for 9 months, that is who she is comfortable with. Your time will come. Your wife is a good mother....don%26039;t try and change that.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Ok when you hold your baby that lets them know that you love them. So since your wife is always holding your baby, your baby feels very safe and comfertable with her. But, a baby doesn%26039;t need to be fed everytime they cry. Sometimes they need to be changed, has gas, or even just bored. They say that you can%26039;t spoil a baby until they are alot older. I think that she just only feels safe when mommy has her. She can and will learn to feel safe when you have her the more that you do. Have you guys ever tried a pacifer? Maybe since your wife breast feeds her you don%26039;t want to but I think that she should have breastfeeding down well enough that it shouldn%26039;t confuse her if you give it to her when you are holding her. My 6 week old loves to suck but of course isn%26039;t always hungry. just a thoughI think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
You should feed your baby that may help. You can also put your wife%26039;s shirt from yesterday over your shoulder so you will have her scent.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Just so you know, it is TOTALLY normal for a nursing breastfed baby or even a formula fed baby to be attached to mummy and attending to her every need is mummy instinct because it is what we are supposed to do. It might take your baby a day or so to adjust once your wife goes to work but that is all and then she will be fine with you caring for her but at this young time in her life she needs mummy to be there for her as much as possible.
In the meantime it is still totally fine with you trying to bond with your baby, maybe after your wife has put your baby to sleep you can sit there and hold her for a while and be the one she wakes up to. That way she doesn%26039;t have to cry even for a few minutes on going to sleep. It is also totally normal for you as daddy to want to bond with your baby too, the only difference is because mums carry the baby for 9 months that bond has already established and it takes some time for the dads to establish one. You need to sit down and talk to your wife as well and let her know you need to bond with your baby too not just her.
In our house it was the other way around in as much as I wanted my bubs dad to bond with her but he had no real interest in spending a lot of time with her while she was little, now at 6.5 months she is totally a mummies girl and wont even let Daddy give her a bottle or put her to sleep, you will never have that problem though not as her primary carer once your wife goes back to work. My man is missing out now because he didn%26039;t try when she was little and I can see that he feels it when she starts screaming for mummy and wont stop till he hands her back to me.
Just always remember you -can%26039;t- spoil a baby with love and attention, ever. They need love and attention to thrive almost as much as they need food and diaper changes.
[Addition] Studies have proven that crying does -nothing- for their lungs, they do not need to be left to cry to strengthen anything.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
you are right to try to teach the child now that she doesn%26039;t always get her way.
however, think about this. your wife is going back to work soon, so she is trying to get all the cuddles she can now.
ALSO, she%26039;s right, if she%26039;s the one cleaning up the puke, then she isn%26039;t going to want to help cause the puke. how about you get up and help when the baby pukes? It%26039;s not like taking care of the baby all day isn%26039;t hard. and you only work from home, you can nap when the baby naps if you%26039;re really tired.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
I think it%26039;s important to remember your baby is only 4 weeks old!! All they need right now is food, sleep and lots of love. If your wife have chosen to breast feed that%26039;s awesome! I think she should get a pump and let you feed the baby a couple of times a day. You also must know that pumping takes a TON of work. So you will need to help out more. When she is feeding your baby, why don%26039;t you burp her.. and bath her. Be there as much as possible, and try not to be jealous. I know it%26039;s an exciting time, but your baby will love you just as much as mommy in a few months, but your baby is comforted by the nipple. My son was the same way with me, he wanted me all the time. And my fiance felt a little pushed out of the picture. Now our son is 5 months old and he loves daddy just as much as me. Although my fiance helps out a ton, he does work all day, but when he gets home he does all the feeding and baths baby then puts him to bed. So it works out quite nicely.
I also think you should be talking to your wife about this, communication is very important.
All the best!I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
OK dad you guys are both right, baby should be able to handle time alone, also as for being choosy our baby was the same way. Wanting to be with me. I had to leave the room for my husband to feed her or else she would want my breast. Your wife is not creating the problem your newborn will change so much don%26039;t get offended. As for baby sucking in air and spitting up its going to happen regardless of crying or not. Our baby had gurd really bad her crying stemmed from her heartburn.
And if you are worried that your little one will be a screamer when your wife goes off to work get a routine going with baby soon so the adjustment wont be too severe. And remember your little one is changing everyday, what works one day may not the next. Good luckI think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
You can%26039;t spoil an infant.
Sucking on the nipple when not eating is not good.
Your action of taking the baby and letting her cry in your arms until she realizes that you love her, too. Good.
Letting her lie quietly, studying things. Good.
Being held by mommy. Good.
I think the nipple thing should be replaced with a pacifier.
I also think it might be healthy for Mommy to get out with the girls for an evening, and YOU watch the baby. She%26039;d get used to the fact that Daddy is important too.
Also...rather than putting her down as soon as she is well asleep, try just lying down and holding her. Put her on your tummy and enjoy letting her sleep on you. You%26039;ll be surprised how much benefit you BOTH get from it!I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Whether you believe it or not, your wife knows your baby better than you (no offense) she carried baby inside of her body for a long time and had a chance to get to know him/her in a way that you cannot imagine!
At this age, the immediate response of you or your wife to baby%26039;s needs is not only important but imperative for baby to thrive. you cannot spoil a month old baby meaning - you must tend to baby%26039;s needs so that baby will begin to trust that his/her needs are going to be taken care of!
yes, you may run into trouble down the road if mom%26039;s breast is used as a pacifier but... you cannot introduce a pacifier until 6 weeks (I recommend) so if boob makes baby happy, then it must be the way it is for now.
I don%26039;t believe that your baby has a preference as to who is holding him/her like you think he/she has. I think that the crying is not a learned response but a comfort thing. Men hold baby%26039;s different and do not have that cushy mom feel to them. to this day, for me, there is no hug like a mom hug!
A woman holding a newborn baby is more natural than anything in this world! Don%26039;t try to take that away! You need to think about it more from your wife%26039;s perspective. Imagine baby with you literally all the time! now imagine how you would feel after the ordeal of birth, missing the feeling of baby moving inside your belly, knowing that baby is safe with you at all times!
Be patient with your wife, she is just doing what comes naturally! Like you said, she will return to work soon and you will be left to care for baby! Don%26039;t worry about the way things are right now. you will have plenty of time to do it %26quot;your way%26quot; very soon!
EDIT: if you are wanting to bond with baby that is one thing. but it sounds to me as if you are wanting to just get baby away from mom so that he/she can be put down to self soothe. self soothing will happen but baby is way too young right now! hold him/her!
and... trust me on the pacifier, but DO NOT introduce this early! Wait the short 14 days to introduce!!!! I cannot stress that enough, I know others think the breastfeeding should be well enough established to introduce but wait on pacifiers and bottles for the two short weeks! It can mean the difference between a rewarding experience for you and momma and a miserable one. Nipple confusion DOES EXIST and can effect baby in ways you cannot imagine! If introduced this early, baby could develop a preference that is so strong, he/she will absolutely REFUSE the other and this preference will be with baby well, I don%26039;t know how long, because I am still having issues with it on a daily basis and my little guy is 15 months!
Good luck to you!I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Babies are smart even though you wouldn%26039;t think they are. When my baby was around a month old my family came to see her and held her 24/7 for a whole week and when they left she expected to get held 24/7. Doctors say they can%26039;t be spoiled yet but they are so wrong.
When babies cry they do suck in air but if you burp them on a regular basis the spit up is minimal. All babies spit up, its just part of being a baby.
I make sure my baby is fed and changed and then I lay her down to play with her toys if she cries I try to distract her with a toy but if that don%26039;t work I pick her up and cuddle her for a while and then lay her back down and she%26039;s fine for a little bit.
I never pick her up the second she cries cuz that teaches them that everytime they want to be held all they have to do is cry. I don%26039;t let my baby lay there and scream though either. I talk to her and try playing with her before I pick her up if she doesn%26039;t stop. Its been working pretty good for us cuz she%26039;s learning to entertain herself for a little bit.
The best thing in the world is a play gym that has the toys that hang above them. My baby loves hers.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Young babies have very basic needs.. fed, clean and dry and held. Young babies also tend to prefer women over men.. and at this age, the baby knows mom%26039;s smell, voice, and touch. Its only NATURAL that a young infant would prefer mom.. mom is a food source!
A baby this young doesnt need %26quot;alone time%26quot;. At this age, the baby is learning to depend upon his/her parents. When the baby cries, you need to see to her needs. She needs to know that her parents are there to care for her.
I dont see what letting her cry it out accomplishes.. other than teaching her that she cant rely on you to meet her needs.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
I always feel for the fathers of babies. The fact is, they are ALWAYS ignored. New moms like to pretend that it is not the case, and that the dads are involved in %26quot;other%26quot; ways, but that is such bs unless you count changing a sh*tty diaper as being involved. I think that you are a reasonable and kind father, but your baby is only one month old. Unfortunately, they need to be held, and there is nothing that you can do about that. Maybe if it%26039;s possible your wife could pump her milk so that you can have a turn with the baby. And you could also spend some more time with your baby so that she can get more used to you and maybe one day she%26039;ll stop crying when you hold her. One month old babies are too yound to learn, but it is good to start implementing some %26039;alone%26039; time and not holding the baby whenever she cries the at about six months old. It%26039;s not child abuse, and they develop a sense of independence. Good luck, you seem like a decent person with good intentions.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
At 4 weeks they always want to be held by mommy but if she%26039;s crying because daddy is holding her, she%26039;ll be fine. its not like she%26039;s crying because she%26039;s hungry and not being fed, or because she%26039;s been left all alone, she%26039;s safe in the arms of a loving parent and a few minutes of fussing will not hurt her. most babies cry several hours a day even if you are like your wife, and always picking them up before they even start.
you have every right to hold your baby and do your part as a parent, but i wouldnt worry about her being spoiled yet, she%26039;s too youngI think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
You are doing the right thing in letting the baby cry. It is said that a baby can go on crying for 10 minutes and not have emotional problems when he/she grows up. Letting them cry lets them know who is in control, if all else seems fine that he/she is not sick and has been changed and fed.
You should buy a few (and I mean a few cause they are easily misplaced and lost) pacifiers so the baby can suck on between feeding times. A baby loves sucking, it%26039;s part of what they do most of at this time of month and a pacifier is very good for this.
And your wife should be understandable right now cause later on the baby will get used to getting his/her way and she will get frustrated cause she won%26039;t be able to do other things around the house that she wants to do. This might cause her to become stressed and depressed. Then, there won%26039;t be a happy family.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Possibly the wife is too attached to baby, she needs to realize she%26039;s making it harder on u and the baby, when she goes back to work. Tell mommy you will show baby pics of her while she is gone, and don%26039;t worry, the baby will never forget about their parents. You were doing everything correct, as far as I can tell.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Well for one thing doctors say that baby%26039;s need to cry. It helps strengthen their lungs. Of course you don%26039;t want to neglect your baby but when they are crying wait a minute or two (as long as they are safe) before picking them up. Also babies should not be sucking on things even nipples all day long, It can create bad teeth eventually. My daughter has been with me 24/7 her whole life (19 months) and when she goes to daycare she doesn%26039;t even say good bye to me she walks over and starts playing with the other kids. No crying involved. Your baby is only one month, she can develop a habit eventually so I would be careful about her being with mommy and mommies nipple all the time. I didn%26039;t even let my daughter use pacifiers, I don%26039;t believe in them. I did breast feed my daughter for 3 months and then we were done. Just be careful the older they get the harder it is to break a habit!!!!I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
hi, i totally agree with u.....though babies look as mom as primary comfortor...father has equal contribution...fortunately/unfortunately… kiddo was on formula rite from her birth...but tht gave an opportunity for her father to feed her too...my hubby does everythg rite from feeding,cleaning to bathing and making her sleep...though he is away most of the time....bcuz of his office...i make sure he spends quality time wid her...god forbid, if sumthg happens to me tomorrow...even if im sick....he shud get a hang of wots happening...
i wud suggest not carrying baby all d time, not only kid gets clingy its not gud for their developmnt.. doesnt mean kid is left crying they shud be comforted and distracted...
wen it comes to breastfeeding, feed on demand....no matter wot...
for gas part, let her be on her tummy for sumtme....under an adult supervision....
Best of Luck.....
Now she isn%26039;t content unless she is being held by mommy. And usually she wants mommy%26039;s nipple even though she isn%26039;t really drinking. Now, about the only time she is content (and cute) is either when she%26039;s sleeping or when she%26039;s sucking. If she%26039;s doing neither, she usually fusses and cries.
During this transformation, she also decided that daddy wasn%26039;t who she wanted to be held by. If I hold her, she reacts the same as if nobody is holding her. She cries. She must have mommy holding her.
I strongly feel that my wife%26039;s behavior unwittingly led to this change. Baby is with mommy 24/7. If baby cries, mommy immediately picks her up. If she continues to cry, mommy immediately gives her her nipple. My wife is great mother... perhaps too great. Because of how quickly she accommodates our baby, our baby cries a total of perhaps only one minute per day.
I believe that the problem is that our baby has become accustomed to being held every waking moment by her mother. And if she doesn%26039;t get what she%26039;s now accustomed to, she cries.
I decided to take action. When I hold our baby and she fusses and cries because I%26039;m not mommy, I go to mommy so that she can see that mommy is there. But I won%26039;t give her to mommy right away. I%26039;ll let her cry for up to five minutes. If she continues crying, I%26039;ll give her to mommy. But that rarely happens. What usually happens is that baby totally quits crying and fussing after three or four minutes. After that she accepts me and she will be like she was before. Already a couple of times she%26039;s fallen asleep in my arms, at which time I put her bassinet. The most notable thing is that, upon waking up, she is like she was before! No fussing or crying. She lies there for several minutes looking around and studying things. To me this proves that, by letting her cry a little, she can readjust to a new routine. Specifically, she can adjust to the way she was before when she didn%26039;t need to be held all the time, and specifically by only her mother.
My wife doesn%26039;t like me to do this because she says that our baby sucks in air when she cries and that it makes her spit up milk at night. And since she%26039;s the one taking care of the baby at night, I have no right to let the baby cry.
I say, as the father, I have the right to keep my baby%26039;s trust, particularly considering I will be the baby%26039;s primary caretaker in a couple months when my wife goes back to work. (I work at home.) I%26039;ve read horror stories of babies who cry for hours at a daycare center, and I have a feeling that is the direction our baby has been going.
I know that some of you mothers will say that a month-old baby is too young to learn. But it%26039;s clear to me that they ARE capable of learning who takes care of them most the time. And they can learn to be dependent upon that person even when they don%26039;t need to be. I think healthy babies should be able to handle some alone time.
Any thoughts or comments? (Actually I%26039;d like to know how to convince my wife, if possible, to try my method. Or to hear of others%26039; similar ordeals and how they handled them.)I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Oh they can learn all right, from early on babies become accustomed to being fussed over when they cry, and in turn do it when they%26039;re not receiving enough attention. My son was getting the same way, and was too used to us holding him until he fell asleep he wouldn%26039;t go in his chair or crib, he would just cry. As hard as it is to hear him cry you can tell when there%26039;s something wrong and when he%26039;s just crying for attention (more like whimpering). We%26039;ve started putting him down as soon as he%26039;s had his bottle and not having extra cuddles with him, so he learns he needs to settle on his own, which I think has been harder for me than for him lol
We%26039;ve had to sort this as once my partner goes back to work in May I will be alone with him, and also have a house to clean etc so won%26039;t be able to pick him up everytime he cries (which we can do now as there%26039;s 2 of us), plus it%26039;s not healthy for a baby to be spoilt and in control.
I don%26039;t understand about the crying making her spit up at night, I%26039;ve never heard of crying doing this, my son cries every day (for no longer than a few minutes at a time) and it%26039;s never caused him to spit up any more or less than he usually does. all babies will spit up a little, it%26039;s their way of getting rid of excess food when they eat more than they need! If your daughter is still feeding well I think letting her cry and learn is the best thing for her, she needs to be able to respond to you ESPECIALLY if you%26039;re going to be looking after her!
You need to get your wife to understand that your baby needs to cry, it%26039;s not causing her any harm, and that she also needs to be able to close to you without your wife taking over when she crys.
Good Luck :o)I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Maybe she could pump her milk so that you could feed her also, then she would see you both as a source of comfortI think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
I think that your method is TERRIBLE!! Babies are supposed to be held and loved. Seems to me that you are jealous of your wife. You aren%26039;t supposed to teach your baby not to cry...they are babies, that%26039;s how they communicate! If your baby wants mommy...give her mommy. Don%26039;t force yourself upon the baby...it will backfire and the baby will grow up never wanting to be with you. Your wife carried the baby for 9 months, that is who she is comfortable with. Your time will come. Your wife is a good mother....don%26039;t try and change that.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Ok when you hold your baby that lets them know that you love them. So since your wife is always holding your baby, your baby feels very safe and comfertable with her. But, a baby doesn%26039;t need to be fed everytime they cry. Sometimes they need to be changed, has gas, or even just bored. They say that you can%26039;t spoil a baby until they are alot older. I think that she just only feels safe when mommy has her. She can and will learn to feel safe when you have her the more that you do. Have you guys ever tried a pacifer? Maybe since your wife breast feeds her you don%26039;t want to but I think that she should have breastfeeding down well enough that it shouldn%26039;t confuse her if you give it to her when you are holding her. My 6 week old loves to suck but of course isn%26039;t always hungry. just a thoughI think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
You should feed your baby that may help. You can also put your wife%26039;s shirt from yesterday over your shoulder so you will have her scent.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Just so you know, it is TOTALLY normal for a nursing breastfed baby or even a formula fed baby to be attached to mummy and attending to her every need is mummy instinct because it is what we are supposed to do. It might take your baby a day or so to adjust once your wife goes to work but that is all and then she will be fine with you caring for her but at this young time in her life she needs mummy to be there for her as much as possible.
In the meantime it is still totally fine with you trying to bond with your baby, maybe after your wife has put your baby to sleep you can sit there and hold her for a while and be the one she wakes up to. That way she doesn%26039;t have to cry even for a few minutes on going to sleep. It is also totally normal for you as daddy to want to bond with your baby too, the only difference is because mums carry the baby for 9 months that bond has already established and it takes some time for the dads to establish one. You need to sit down and talk to your wife as well and let her know you need to bond with your baby too not just her.
In our house it was the other way around in as much as I wanted my bubs dad to bond with her but he had no real interest in spending a lot of time with her while she was little, now at 6.5 months she is totally a mummies girl and wont even let Daddy give her a bottle or put her to sleep, you will never have that problem though not as her primary carer once your wife goes back to work. My man is missing out now because he didn%26039;t try when she was little and I can see that he feels it when she starts screaming for mummy and wont stop till he hands her back to me.
Just always remember you -can%26039;t- spoil a baby with love and attention, ever. They need love and attention to thrive almost as much as they need food and diaper changes.
[Addition] Studies have proven that crying does -nothing- for their lungs, they do not need to be left to cry to strengthen anything.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
you are right to try to teach the child now that she doesn%26039;t always get her way.
however, think about this. your wife is going back to work soon, so she is trying to get all the cuddles she can now.
ALSO, she%26039;s right, if she%26039;s the one cleaning up the puke, then she isn%26039;t going to want to help cause the puke. how about you get up and help when the baby pukes? It%26039;s not like taking care of the baby all day isn%26039;t hard. and you only work from home, you can nap when the baby naps if you%26039;re really tired.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
I think it%26039;s important to remember your baby is only 4 weeks old!! All they need right now is food, sleep and lots of love. If your wife have chosen to breast feed that%26039;s awesome! I think she should get a pump and let you feed the baby a couple of times a day. You also must know that pumping takes a TON of work. So you will need to help out more. When she is feeding your baby, why don%26039;t you burp her.. and bath her. Be there as much as possible, and try not to be jealous. I know it%26039;s an exciting time, but your baby will love you just as much as mommy in a few months, but your baby is comforted by the nipple. My son was the same way with me, he wanted me all the time. And my fiance felt a little pushed out of the picture. Now our son is 5 months old and he loves daddy just as much as me. Although my fiance helps out a ton, he does work all day, but when he gets home he does all the feeding and baths baby then puts him to bed. So it works out quite nicely.
I also think you should be talking to your wife about this, communication is very important.
All the best!I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
OK dad you guys are both right, baby should be able to handle time alone, also as for being choosy our baby was the same way. Wanting to be with me. I had to leave the room for my husband to feed her or else she would want my breast. Your wife is not creating the problem your newborn will change so much don%26039;t get offended. As for baby sucking in air and spitting up its going to happen regardless of crying or not. Our baby had gurd really bad her crying stemmed from her heartburn.
And if you are worried that your little one will be a screamer when your wife goes off to work get a routine going with baby soon so the adjustment wont be too severe. And remember your little one is changing everyday, what works one day may not the next. Good luckI think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
You can%26039;t spoil an infant.
Sucking on the nipple when not eating is not good.
Your action of taking the baby and letting her cry in your arms until she realizes that you love her, too. Good.
Letting her lie quietly, studying things. Good.
Being held by mommy. Good.
I think the nipple thing should be replaced with a pacifier.
I also think it might be healthy for Mommy to get out with the girls for an evening, and YOU watch the baby. She%26039;d get used to the fact that Daddy is important too.
Also...rather than putting her down as soon as she is well asleep, try just lying down and holding her. Put her on your tummy and enjoy letting her sleep on you. You%26039;ll be surprised how much benefit you BOTH get from it!I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Whether you believe it or not, your wife knows your baby better than you (no offense) she carried baby inside of her body for a long time and had a chance to get to know him/her in a way that you cannot imagine!
At this age, the immediate response of you or your wife to baby%26039;s needs is not only important but imperative for baby to thrive. you cannot spoil a month old baby meaning - you must tend to baby%26039;s needs so that baby will begin to trust that his/her needs are going to be taken care of!
yes, you may run into trouble down the road if mom%26039;s breast is used as a pacifier but... you cannot introduce a pacifier until 6 weeks (I recommend) so if boob makes baby happy, then it must be the way it is for now.
I don%26039;t believe that your baby has a preference as to who is holding him/her like you think he/she has. I think that the crying is not a learned response but a comfort thing. Men hold baby%26039;s different and do not have that cushy mom feel to them. to this day, for me, there is no hug like a mom hug!
A woman holding a newborn baby is more natural than anything in this world! Don%26039;t try to take that away! You need to think about it more from your wife%26039;s perspective. Imagine baby with you literally all the time! now imagine how you would feel after the ordeal of birth, missing the feeling of baby moving inside your belly, knowing that baby is safe with you at all times!
Be patient with your wife, she is just doing what comes naturally! Like you said, she will return to work soon and you will be left to care for baby! Don%26039;t worry about the way things are right now. you will have plenty of time to do it %26quot;your way%26quot; very soon!
EDIT: if you are wanting to bond with baby that is one thing. but it sounds to me as if you are wanting to just get baby away from mom so that he/she can be put down to self soothe. self soothing will happen but baby is way too young right now! hold him/her!
and... trust me on the pacifier, but DO NOT introduce this early! Wait the short 14 days to introduce!!!! I cannot stress that enough, I know others think the breastfeeding should be well enough established to introduce but wait on pacifiers and bottles for the two short weeks! It can mean the difference between a rewarding experience for you and momma and a miserable one. Nipple confusion DOES EXIST and can effect baby in ways you cannot imagine! If introduced this early, baby could develop a preference that is so strong, he/she will absolutely REFUSE the other and this preference will be with baby well, I don%26039;t know how long, because I am still having issues with it on a daily basis and my little guy is 15 months!
Good luck to you!I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Babies are smart even though you wouldn%26039;t think they are. When my baby was around a month old my family came to see her and held her 24/7 for a whole week and when they left she expected to get held 24/7. Doctors say they can%26039;t be spoiled yet but they are so wrong.
When babies cry they do suck in air but if you burp them on a regular basis the spit up is minimal. All babies spit up, its just part of being a baby.
I make sure my baby is fed and changed and then I lay her down to play with her toys if she cries I try to distract her with a toy but if that don%26039;t work I pick her up and cuddle her for a while and then lay her back down and she%26039;s fine for a little bit.
I never pick her up the second she cries cuz that teaches them that everytime they want to be held all they have to do is cry. I don%26039;t let my baby lay there and scream though either. I talk to her and try playing with her before I pick her up if she doesn%26039;t stop. Its been working pretty good for us cuz she%26039;s learning to entertain herself for a little bit.
The best thing in the world is a play gym that has the toys that hang above them. My baby loves hers.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Young babies have very basic needs.. fed, clean and dry and held. Young babies also tend to prefer women over men.. and at this age, the baby knows mom%26039;s smell, voice, and touch. Its only NATURAL that a young infant would prefer mom.. mom is a food source!
A baby this young doesnt need %26quot;alone time%26quot;. At this age, the baby is learning to depend upon his/her parents. When the baby cries, you need to see to her needs. She needs to know that her parents are there to care for her.
I dont see what letting her cry it out accomplishes.. other than teaching her that she cant rely on you to meet her needs.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
I always feel for the fathers of babies. The fact is, they are ALWAYS ignored. New moms like to pretend that it is not the case, and that the dads are involved in %26quot;other%26quot; ways, but that is such bs unless you count changing a sh*tty diaper as being involved. I think that you are a reasonable and kind father, but your baby is only one month old. Unfortunately, they need to be held, and there is nothing that you can do about that. Maybe if it%26039;s possible your wife could pump her milk so that you can have a turn with the baby. And you could also spend some more time with your baby so that she can get more used to you and maybe one day she%26039;ll stop crying when you hold her. One month old babies are too yound to learn, but it is good to start implementing some %26039;alone%26039; time and not holding the baby whenever she cries the at about six months old. It%26039;s not child abuse, and they develop a sense of independence. Good luck, you seem like a decent person with good intentions.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
At 4 weeks they always want to be held by mommy but if she%26039;s crying because daddy is holding her, she%26039;ll be fine. its not like she%26039;s crying because she%26039;s hungry and not being fed, or because she%26039;s been left all alone, she%26039;s safe in the arms of a loving parent and a few minutes of fussing will not hurt her. most babies cry several hours a day even if you are like your wife, and always picking them up before they even start.
you have every right to hold your baby and do your part as a parent, but i wouldnt worry about her being spoiled yet, she%26039;s too youngI think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
You are doing the right thing in letting the baby cry. It is said that a baby can go on crying for 10 minutes and not have emotional problems when he/she grows up. Letting them cry lets them know who is in control, if all else seems fine that he/she is not sick and has been changed and fed.
You should buy a few (and I mean a few cause they are easily misplaced and lost) pacifiers so the baby can suck on between feeding times. A baby loves sucking, it%26039;s part of what they do most of at this time of month and a pacifier is very good for this.
And your wife should be understandable right now cause later on the baby will get used to getting his/her way and she will get frustrated cause she won%26039;t be able to do other things around the house that she wants to do. This might cause her to become stressed and depressed. Then, there won%26039;t be a happy family.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Possibly the wife is too attached to baby, she needs to realize she%26039;s making it harder on u and the baby, when she goes back to work. Tell mommy you will show baby pics of her while she is gone, and don%26039;t worry, the baby will never forget about their parents. You were doing everything correct, as far as I can tell.I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
Well for one thing doctors say that baby%26039;s need to cry. It helps strengthen their lungs. Of course you don%26039;t want to neglect your baby but when they are crying wait a minute or two (as long as they are safe) before picking them up. Also babies should not be sucking on things even nipples all day long, It can create bad teeth eventually. My daughter has been with me 24/7 her whole life (19 months) and when she goes to daycare she doesn%26039;t even say good bye to me she walks over and starts playing with the other kids. No crying involved. Your baby is only one month, she can develop a habit eventually so I would be careful about her being with mommy and mommies nipple all the time. I didn%26039;t even let my daughter use pacifiers, I don%26039;t believe in them. I did breast feed my daughter for 3 months and then we were done. Just be careful the older they get the harder it is to break a habit!!!!I think my wife is teaching our month-old baby a bad habit. Comments?
hi, i totally agree with u.....though babies look as mom as primary comfortor...father has equal contribution...fortunately/unfortunately… kiddo was on formula rite from her birth...but tht gave an opportunity for her father to feed her too...my hubby does everythg rite from feeding,cleaning to bathing and making her sleep...though he is away most of the time....bcuz of his office...i make sure he spends quality time wid her...god forbid, if sumthg happens to me tomorrow...even if im sick....he shud get a hang of wots happening...
i wud suggest not carrying baby all d time, not only kid gets clingy its not gud for their developmnt.. doesnt mean kid is left crying they shud be comforted and distracted...
wen it comes to breastfeeding, feed on demand....no matter wot...
for gas part, let her be on her tummy for sumtme....under an adult supervision....
Best of Luck.....
Baby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
I am 35 weeks pregnant tomorrow
32 weeks - scan showed baby was breech
34 weeks- midwife was unsure due to position but still seemed breech.
now i have to see the midwife at 36 weeks (next week) and if the baby is breech then she is going to send me to the hospital to try and move the baby into the right position for birth by the time i get to 37 weeks, the midwife mentioned that they do it in hospital incase it starts labour off.
i've spent all week looking around and speaking to people about moving the baby (not sure what it's called) and i didnt realise that there's small risks with the baby's heartrate and labour starting aswell. Now im not so sure, i dont know whether it is a choice thing or whether it has to be done. I have already spoken to my midwife about what happens if the baby stays breech and she has said a cesarean at 39 weeks, which i am happy enough to go along with. i just dont know about trying to change baby's position, would it be stupid to say i dont want it, i have a strong belief that everything happens for a reason. I miscarried 5 months before i fell pregnant this time and it has made me see that everything had a purpose, i think if my baby is breech now then for some reason she is meant to be born by cesarean, does that sound stupid? i dont want to look like im causing a fuss over a small thing, or whether i can say i dont want it at all. not sure how it works.
I have to decide by a week tomorrow cos thats when im seeing the midwife and if baby is still breech then she'll want to book the appointment to move her whilst i am there.
thanks in advance xBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
my sister was breech and my poor mum had her turned 3 times the longest she stayed the right way was 2 days but during labour she turned herself so fingers crossed iv heard alot of babies do this they move at the last minute when they are ready
32 weeks - scan showed baby was breech
34 weeks- midwife was unsure due to position but still seemed breech.
now i have to see the midwife at 36 weeks (next week) and if the baby is breech then she is going to send me to the hospital to try and move the baby into the right position for birth by the time i get to 37 weeks, the midwife mentioned that they do it in hospital incase it starts labour off.
i've spent all week looking around and speaking to people about moving the baby (not sure what it's called) and i didnt realise that there's small risks with the baby's heartrate and labour starting aswell. Now im not so sure, i dont know whether it is a choice thing or whether it has to be done. I have already spoken to my midwife about what happens if the baby stays breech and she has said a cesarean at 39 weeks, which i am happy enough to go along with. i just dont know about trying to change baby's position, would it be stupid to say i dont want it, i have a strong belief that everything happens for a reason. I miscarried 5 months before i fell pregnant this time and it has made me see that everything had a purpose, i think if my baby is breech now then for some reason she is meant to be born by cesarean, does that sound stupid? i dont want to look like im causing a fuss over a small thing, or whether i can say i dont want it at all. not sure how it works.
I have to decide by a week tomorrow cos thats when im seeing the midwife and if baby is still breech then she'll want to book the appointment to move her whilst i am there.
thanks in advance xBaby Breech, not sure about trying to move baby?
my sister was breech and my poor mum had her turned 3 times the longest she stayed the right way was 2 days but during labour she turned herself so fingers crossed iv heard alot of babies do this they move at the last minute when they are ready
How do I change my baby's name?
My husband and I decided that he would name the boys and I would name the girls. Well I had two boys, and I can't have anymore children. So I thought it was fair for me to name him. My husband named him Alex. I wanted Ryan. He looks like a Ryan. I gave in to him because I was still drudged from the c-section and was in no mood to argue. He's 3 months now and I just keep wanting to call him Ryan. How do I change his name legally? How do I change my baby%26039;s name?
I believe you will have to go to court to get it legally changed. The exact process (and fees) vary from city to city or from state to state. Call your local courthouse and find out what you need to do.
Note to other expectant parents: This is why you do NOT just let one parent choose the names. Work together and compromise- The kids belong to BOTH of you!How do I change my baby%26039;s name?
You should never allow one spouse to name the child. It isn't right. This whole garbage of moms naming daughters and fathers naming sons is just dumb. You get some loser who names his son Miller Lite and that is sad.
I believe you will have to go to court to get it legally changed. The exact process (and fees) vary from city to city or from state to state. Call your local courthouse and find out what you need to do.
Note to other expectant parents: This is why you do NOT just let one parent choose the names. Work together and compromise- The kids belong to BOTH of you!How do I change my baby%26039;s name?
You should never allow one spouse to name the child. It isn't right. This whole garbage of moms naming daughters and fathers naming sons is just dumb. You get some loser who names his son Miller Lite and that is sad.
How can I change my baby's last name to mine?
I live in florida and have a 5 month old baby and me and his father weren't married when he h\was born. now we're broken up and he still wants to keep the baby's last name as his even though he doesn't come see him or help out financially. I want to change his last name to mine but i looked online and he would have to sign a form approving the change of last name and I know he won't sign. is there any other way I can change his last name?How can I change my baby%26039;s last name to mine?
If the father won't sign it, the only other option you have is to wait until the kid turns 18 and is able to make those decisions on his own.
Secondly, take the father to court. You need child support.How can I change my baby%26039;s last name to mine?
NopeHow can I change my baby%26039;s last name to mine?
you can change names, but it cost money.. people do it every day... i think as long as you have a reason why, and so on, but yes i heard you can, many do it, even actors do it..
If the father won't sign it, the only other option you have is to wait until the kid turns 18 and is able to make those decisions on his own.
Secondly, take the father to court. You need child support.How can I change my baby%26039;s last name to mine?
NopeHow can I change my baby%26039;s last name to mine?
you can change names, but it cost money.. people do it every day... i think as long as you have a reason why, and so on, but yes i heard you can, many do it, even actors do it..
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